Posted Sat Mar 24, 2007 04:30 PM
In every single way he is the best lover I have ever experienced, but I am just confused as to why missionary is like this for me. It was fine with my ex who, like I said, was a bit smaller in size and thickness, so I'm at a loss as to why this is occuring.
Also, another puzzlement, it used to hurt a lot when my ex penetrated me. It hit my cervix and I would get cramps and really sore. So far, I haven't felt anything with my new boyfriend. No pains, no cramps, no hitting the cervix.
What's up with this? I'm confused.
Posted Sat Mar 24, 2007 04:34 PM
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Posted Sat Mar 24, 2007 04:40 PM
One thing that works for me in missionary is to lean back supporting myself with one hand on the bed behind me. I use the tip to put pressure all along the topside of her pussy all the way from the very front to the cervix, focusing more on the gspot than anything. With the other hand, I am either stimulating her clit or just putting a downward pressure on her mons pubis.
You know how a guy can use fingers on the inside to hit gspot and push down on mons pubis/stomach area to make contact. That is pretty much what I try to do but using my dick and one other hand, kind of like a bull riding stance.
Alternatively, I can push my pelvis toward the floor and angle upwards in a normal face to face missionary. I keep the depth shallow part of the time alternative with deeper thrusts for emphasis. Same basic idea for me..the tip makes contact with the whole top part of her pussy. Legs over the shoulders has always worked well for me too. Accomplishes the same task. It is also really hot just to spread the woman's legs and let her hold them up in the air like that. Might hit the right area that way.
The shorter guy was probably just smacking your gspot nearly every time he thrusted forward. Longer guys need to learn how to do this. The longer guy probably has learned how not to hit your cervix from past bad experiences! Longer guys learn women don't like that, haha.
Posted Sat Mar 24, 2007 04:45 PM
Thanks, Cardinal!! That makes a lot of sense!!
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Posted Mon Mar 26, 2007 01:37 PM
but now its happy and too relaxed.
or maybe you should just be on top:)
Posted Mon Mar 26, 2007 02:17 PM
So here's my fun orgasm description. I haven't had the gspot kind, as I can't reconcile with the feeling of peeing on my boyfriend, lol. We're working on that. Clitoral orgasm is great. My favorite though is just orgasm from penetration. I know what you mean about not feeling anything, or as much, from missionary position. My boyfriend is pretty big too. Here's how I get around that, and manage to have one orgasm from both penetration and clitoral stimulation at the same time, or two orgasms at the same time I guess it would be.
First there is masturbating the right way to get those muscles working. I have never used a dildo or anything. I have learned how to masturbate (on my back as if in missionary but alone) so as to have an orgasm not by directly stimulating my clitoris, rather stimulating around it and concentrating around the opening of my vagina. This sort of simulates penetration (sort of cause nothing is actually in me). The orgasm I have is not clitoral, it feels rather like it's just around the opening of my vagina. I like it better than clitoral. It's more powerful I think, but I can have more orgasms of this kind than I can of clitoral ones.
This is also akin to having sex with me on top. Try using your kegal muscles in that position to get that particular feeling building up, if you feel a clitoral orgasm coming on don't go for it. Pace yourself and work for the other kind.
During missionary position I have a habit of, once I feel it building, I grab his butt really hard and direct him into me with the pressure and pace that gets me off. I also use that position to help me tilt my hips up, sort of like doing a sit up by lifting your hips to your head, great for the abs too lol. It's great but other than that orgasm, which is more than enough I don't feel as many different things as I do when I'm on top.
As for discussing it with him perhaps you could explain that you prefer being on top right now because you can feel more variation (feel free to elaborate) than when you are on the bottom. However, you'd really like to feel more things while in missionary and here (insert ideas) are some things you'd like to try so that you can enjoy both positions equally.
I also suggest not favoring a position. I like to try to do all positions a pretty equal amount of time so that they all feel really great, and also that means that the orgasm I'm used to having in each position will be as great as any other position. As opposed to having the best ones in the position you're used to getting off in, it's a circle of the best orgasm being in a particular position so you stay with that position etc.
As for the difference in length you feel inside, the others were on the right track. When you are aroused not only do you get wetter, but your vaginal canal also elongates and widens in circumference to accomodate a penis.
Hope this helped!
Posted Mon Mar 26, 2007 03:42 PM
Laurel Q said:
What's up with this? I'm confused.
Posted Mon Mar 26, 2007 08:23 PM
Posted Mon Mar 26, 2007 09:09 PM