Relationship Failure Help with relationships
Posted Mon Sep 19, 2011 03:30 PM
I was wondering if anyone had any advice they could offer me.
Like I can I become less shy and give myself a 60 sec sell that will attract a nice girl to me?
I tend to be very out there, and "crazy", and quite the nerd, how disastrous is that to my success?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated, I'm tired of being alone and watching everyone else around me being with someone. Not looking for sex or one night stands, but someone I could have a real relationship with, perhaps fall in love with and marry.
Thanks a bunch :-)
Posted Mon Sep 19, 2011 03:36 PM
This post has been edited by TheShade: Mon Sep 19, 2011 03:38 PM
Posted Mon Sep 19, 2011 04:18 PM
I would say to be a reasonable you (don't magnify your weirdness or don't like a different person that you are), but confidently so. Do not be afraid of rejection...both rejection and not ever engaging with with a girl has the same end result : No lady friend. The only possibility whereby you have an opportunity to have a gal is IF you engage her. And don't worry about crashing and burning, accept that not everyone is a match for you, nor you them.
Forget your weight, shape, color, looks. Some people, in both genders, are attracted to some of the weirdest stuff....like confidence.
DO NOT define success as a girl accepting your advance or approving of you. That is NOT success. Success is that you approached her, bantered a bit, and had a good time if only for a few minutes. If it goes somewhere from there, that's great! If it doesn't, GREAT! Doing this over and over will acclimate you to the concept that speaking with women really isn't like being a Hebrew priest in the days of Exodus walking into the Ark of the Covenant to see the face of God.
Stop caring so much about the results and just do you.
Posted Mon Sep 19, 2011 06:18 PM
Start slow. Find someone you see fairly often. Find any excuse to compliment her - new earrings, nice sweater, different hair - anything that shows you notice her. Make the complement and then move on. Don't hit her up for a date - just make the comment, smile and be on your way. Next time you see her, nod, smile and go about your business. Do that a few times and then approach her again when you see something else to compliment her on. I bet she will talk to you for a bit.
The beauty of this is there is no risk at all. You can do this all day long with many different women. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, but you gain confidence each and every time.
Posted Mon Sep 19, 2011 06:28 PM
1976 Cadillac Coupe de Ville convertible - Hot pink exterior with cow-hide white/black fur interior
6" Platform shoes with transparent soles that are actually filled water and have gold fish in them
A Chinchilla fur coat - any color will do
A black hat, minimum 2 feet in diameter, with a pink feather someone on it
A cane with gold trim.
Obnoxiously large sunglasses
Minimum 14 pieces of gold (faux gold is ok) jewelry to wear sporadically on all appendages of the body.
A silk button down shirt, with only the bottom 2 buttons buttoned.
You will, literally, appear quite 'pimp'...and that is certain to attract (at the very least) a certain type of women.
Posted Tue Sep 20, 2011 12:37 AM
they need luvin too.
maybe that will equal the playing field for ya.
This post has been edited by BnLrKinky: Tue Sep 20, 2011 12:38 AM