We would like to get back into swinging
Posted Sun Sep 25, 2011 04:21 PM
Posted Mon Sep 26, 2011 12:41 PM
First and foremost, I would address the "with mixed results" issue. Were the mixed results due to outside partners, issues between you two, etc.? Make sure that, if you two had issues, that you addressed them. If the issues were due to outside partners, then think about whether you could identify any warning signs to help you avoid them in the future. Do not hesitate to create guidelines and a screening process.
Beyond that, it probably would not hurt to act a bit like newbies... by which I mean, do some research into your local swing clubs (if you like clubbing) or sign up for some online meetings sites (if you prefer that method). Haul out your old play rules -- assuming that you created rules -- and review them, updating them to fit your needs today. Or scrap them and create a new set of rules by which you plan to play.
After you have addressed any anticipated issues (obviously you cannot prepare for every eventuality), determined what you both want, and by what rules you and your partners must play, then start visiting the clubs or perusing the sites for possible candidates. Remember to stick to your selected rules; no matter how tempting you find the other couple, they are not worth breaking your rules for.
Posted Mon Sep 26, 2011 05:19 PM
Posted Fri Sep 30, 2011 11:09 PM
Sorry I can't give you any advice. My wife and I are new to swinging. We have our first date next week with another couple.
I'm curious about the problems you had with the outside partners. Can you elaborate? I would just like to know what to avoid.
Posted Sat Oct 01, 2011 03:36 PM
As for the second and only other time. We went out with another couple. After going out to dinner and a strip club, we headed for our hotel room. It started of with the ladies playing with each other. After some time it turned into a full swap. As we were going at it, I got the feeling that the girl i was with wasn't really into. As we learned a few weeks later, she doesn't enjoy the swinging thing, she was just doing it for her husband. It's hard to explanned on here, but the whole situation turned us both off on the idea of swinging. That was about 6 years ago, so its taken some time to get back into it.
Posted Sat Oct 01, 2011 11:29 PM
Let me know if you're ever going to be in Kansas. My wife and I would love to meet a nice normal couple like yourselves.