This is my first thread on this forum, so i hope this is in the right spot..
Recently i started talking to my ex boyfriend again, its been about 2 years since we were in any sort of relationship because i had found someone else and then he found someone else shortly after. We hadnt even talked in over a year. He was the first person i ever had sex with, and i was his second but we had a very serious relationship, we argued alot though, thats what pretty much ended it, also towards the end the sex sucked on my part, but he new how to get me off with oral sex. So last night we made plans (hung out with him a week ago but it was just catching up) and we decided to hang out at my place, and he brought some liquor over, just to have a little fun ya know and everything was good, we talked for a while, and then decided to watch a movie, and then thats when things got carried away. He started kissing my neck and went on from there, but it took us kind of a while to actually KISS. Now at this time we started getting veryyy horny and we wanted to take things further but i was unsure about the whole situations. So we fooled around for a long time, id say an hour or so.. and man it was GREAT fooling around. we then started having sex, and everything was all good at first but then the sex just started going down hill for me. It wasnt really pleasing me anymore, it was too fast pace for me and it felt as though we were just "screwing". So i ended up wanting to stop, because i felt reallly awkward, and he could see that i was uncomfortable. he completly understood though, and we decided to put it all behind us and not worry about it. (we agreed that we rushed into things) So he ended up staying over. and he layed with me, holding me the whole entire night. And he left in the morning because we both had a bunch of stuff to do, and we both wanted to keep it on the downlow. He said he really wants to keep seeing me, and i hope he means it. But why is it that the forplay is REALLY GREAT but then the sex is just "eh" for me. Its like we both have our own meaning of having sex. I like sex that isnt loud and is not to fast, and you dont seperate from each others body much. But we were having sex that was just wayy to fast for me, loud and i dont know how to explain the rest. If im going to be on top, I should be the one in control, and well it was the total opposite.
Anyways, we are both very attracted to each other, and we know how to get each other turned on, but the sex for me is crap. If this situation were to ever happen again, and i wanted to have sex with him, How do i let him know the way that i want it, without feeling awkward? How do i set the pace?
ps. i know this whole situtation probably sounds like a "fuck buddy" situtation, but we really dont care, we are just looking to have a little fun!
You can comment on the whole situation if you want, i just want to know what other people think about this.
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