Why is this girl ignoring me?
Posted Tue Oct 11, 2011 04:10 PM
This semester she is in one of my college classes and for the first few classes I thought I would catch her looking over at me. At the end of those first few classes it seemed like she was waiting for me to walk out at the same time so we could talk or w.e. After about 3 or 4 classes I talked to her on the way out of class just one time. The professor became sick or something so she canceled class for about a week and a half after that day, so I went a little while without seeing her.
I just friend requested her on facebook the other day and she didn't accept it yet. I know she's been on facebook because her profile isn't private and I can see that shes been on it. I'm kind of confused as to why she hasn't accepted me yet. She has quite a bit of friends on her facebook so I doubt she isn't adding me because I'm some creep or some random guy she doesn't know. She seems to add just about everyone else.
The last few classes she has gotten right up at the end and headed for the door which kind of makes me think she is avoiding confrontation.
I don't know how to asses this situation at all. I can't see why she wouldn't at least want to talk to me or add me on facebook. Its not like I am some unattractive creep who is constantly bugging her. I have been told by girls before that I am very attractive and I believe I have a good personality. So what's the deal???
The only conclusions that I could think of is maybe she is upset that I never talked to her those first few classes and now she doesn't want anything to do with me, but even then why would you ignore someone just because they didn't talk to you right away. I now realize that I should have not waited so long to talk to her because it probably shows a lack in confidence in me.
Another thought I had was maybe she is just a little shy. But by looking at her profile and knowing some of her friends she doesn't seem like a shy person at all, but what do I know.
Then I started to think maybe she is playing hard to get and doing the same thing I did to her during those first few classes.
I am not really bothered by the fact that she hasn't talked to me but more confused than anything. My intentions are not to try and hook up with her or to date her but to at least have someone to talk to in class or become friends. Next semester I will be transferring to a different school far away so it wouldn't make much sense for me to start a relationship now anyways.
I'm coming to you guys for some help. If this goes on any longer what should I do? Should I try and catch her at the end of class and ask her what the deal is or should I just let it go and move on?
Posted Tue Oct 11, 2011 04:26 PM
IDK dude, your behavior is a bit wierd, maybe you are sending out the same vibe to her that I picked up on ?
If there is nothing to your feelings, then move on. Not worth wasting your time or energy over.
Posted Tue Oct 11, 2011 04:31 PM
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Posted Tue Oct 11, 2011 08:27 PM
I would like to briefly state, that I have maintained a crush on an absolutely, absolutely C-U-T-E, cute and gorgoeus college girl, which transpired in my 'Essentials of Algebra' class in the fall of 2010. She is truly the whole nine yards; sweet, caring, soft-toned, beautiful, long blonde hair, vibrant hazel eyes, an immaculate, kissable face, a stunning, white smile, which melts my heart, every time I am in the presense of it, and respectfully stated, a very nice figure. Miracouously, for the first time in my adolescent, soon-to-be adult life (I was 19 years old at the time), I was blessed to have a girl sit next to me, by her own choosing as opposed to being forced by another powerful determinant (teacher). Never had I been presented with the opportunity on the grounds that girls posited that I was either gross or ugly, much to my sad dismay.
To simplify a long account, I enjoyed the pleasure of her sweet company every Friday, until 11:30 AM. It felt as those I was in a utopia, tranquil, and smiling ear-to-ear in her lovely presence. She made my heart palpatate, and I never want her to go. I was said when she had to depart. ;,( I was basically in love, and her little sweet giggle made me want to kiss her, if not hug her. Then, came the news that any relationship-seeker wishes to never hear, via a conversation that I overheard. "She has a boyfriend." Immediately, my demeanor and expression changed accordingly, and I allowed my head to sink unconsciously. I valiantly and inconspicously held tears back. I was awestruck and devastated, initally. But, guess what? I did not allow it to bring me down, I accepted it and the truly wonderful silver lining, is that, while it is an absolute rule that she will not ever be mine, I can still talk to her when she is on campus and available, I can still distribute a passing smile to her to the tune of her cute smile, which melts my heart, and do you know why? Because she is an acquaintance of mine, and a very sweet one at that. It is therefore for this reason, that I am going to be so sad when I graduate next year on May 19, for after commencement, I will never see sweet Alexandra again. ;,(
I will miss her; I have contemplated shaking her hand, and saying my final words to her, which would be 'You are the most sweetest and kindest girl, that it has ever been my pleasure to know, at this college. I will miss talking to you in the hallway. The very best of luck to you in life.'I apologize for taking your thread, Marlo; chin up, never give up and do not allow it to affect you. There is somebody out there for everybody. Have a nice day.
Posted Sun Oct 16, 2011 12:23 PM
Posted Sun Oct 16, 2011 10:32 PM
As for the Facebook thing, I think people put WAY too much stock in that crap. Yeah, it looks like I have a lot of friends too. Most of them are former co-workers and people I've rekindled friendships from high school, but most aren't real relationships. It's simply a way to keep in touch, if you want.
If you see her again, just smile and pay attention to your class. Don't stare. Move on, and let it go.
Posted Mon Oct 17, 2011 06:24 AM
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Posted Mon Oct 17, 2011 07:43 AM
it may be true..( i mean...she is good looking)....well..but...it may not be true at the same time?
you said you guys just talked once...then why did you expect she would accept your friend request..
some people dont like sharing their photos or stuffs..(girls like putting photos up on facebook , right?)
you kind of over-think about this. there is nothing wrong to guess or speculate...but dont get bothered by them..
Posted Mon Oct 17, 2011 08:31 PM
Posted Wed Oct 19, 2011 01:40 PM
all i know for sure, is if she's not aware of the high school connection, it makes everything you've done seem creepy. and honestly, even with that, u are still taking this too far.
stuff like this should be like water off a ducks back... its against the rules to facebook stalk and care, until after the 4th date. <- that's a joke
but i would say, that as a good rule of thumb, if she either way, a) remembers you and hasnt heard anything terrible about you or was attracted to you or interested in the slightest, even if she was planning to play hard to get, you'd be her facebook friend at least, by now. i think that ur not having been accepted it your clue!