The rules she proposed are that we would commit to staying married (as we have 4 children and we'd hurt the family if we split up), nobody in the family can know about it, we would always use condoms to prevent disease, and let each other know when we have one of these adventures. How much detail would be disclosed about each tryst is still not defined. I didn't tell her this yet, but I'd also want to make sure that what happens on the road stays there and our "friends" are not in the same city where we live and that we would not see the same people repeatedly or for long periods of time. Additionally, I'd want to make sure that if either of us began to fall in love with another person, we would break off that relationship immediately to protect our marriage.
I did not agree to her proposal, as I have heard so many horror stories about such "modern marriages" ending in divorce, because one of the partners falls in love with someone else with whom they are sexually engaged. The outsider always appears more exciting/loving/fun when you don't live together, deal with family responsibilities together, and see each other's annoying daily habits.
I love my wife and she loves me. So this seems like taking a big gamble with our marriage for a little fun and adventure. She thinks it will spice things up for us and make our love life and sex life better. Further, I think she sees this as a harmless last fling and life experience before we are too old to attract younger people. What do you all think about this arrangement? Should I agree to it or try to kill the idea? Any comments or advice from folks that have been through something like this would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
This post has been edited by amor4u4me: Tue Oct 18, 2011 01:15 AM