The guys here, and some of the girls too, have been wondering and asking about Tantra and "how can Steph possibly have orgasms that last an hour"?
I'm going to try to explain how I do it. You may or may not be able to do it too, but it really does work. You just need to concentrate and make it happen.
Usual sexual orgasmic spasm lasts about a minute or so for men and around two minutes for women at most. You should measure the duration when you masturbate.
Although a man may have some spasms after ejaculation, it does not last so much. However, there is a way to extend the spasm for three to five minutes, or even for ten minutes in some cases (for both men and women).
Before going on and explaining the method, I would like you to observe the orgasmic spasm by yourself.
You can to try this in two different ways when you masturbate to observe your orgasm.
One is to concentrate your consciousness at your genital organs during the orgasm, while the other is to concentrate your consciousness at "the top of your head" or at "the center of your brain" (you may choose the one that seems easier for you) during the orgasm.
Between these two, there will be great difference in the duration of the orgasmic spasm.
When you concentrate on your genital organs, the spasm is somewhat simple and lacks in the depth and length.
For men, the spasm ends soon after ejaculation. For women, it ends within two minutes.
However, if you concentrate at the top of the head or the center of the brain as soon as you attain orgasm and keep that way until the after shock, the orgasmic spasm becomes endlessly long. You should try it when you masturbate, and when you both can do that with masturbation, you should try it together in actual sex.
Where to place the center of gravity of your consciousness at the moment of orgasm and after, will alter the depth and the duration of the orgasm. You may think that the orgasm would be deeper if all your consciousness is concentrated at the genital organs. But the truth is different. It will be deeper and will last nearly forever, not only for women but also for men, if the consciousness is focused at the top of the head or the center of the brain.
If this happens to you, by observing, you will understand that the spasm is not limited to the physical reaction of the genital organs.
The ideal orgasmic spasm happens, not when you concentrate on the lower body, but when the consciousness climbs up to the top of the head using the physical spasmodic reaction as a slingshot.
When you are experiencing a continuous orgasmic spasm by concentrating at the top of your head or the center of your brain, try to bring move your consciousness down your body. The spasm will end abruptly.
To illustrate the point that "the orgasmic spasm is not just a physiological reaction of the genital organs", I will mention an example. We had a simultaneous orgasm with his penis on my breast. This is not "ejaculation over the breast" type of usual practice. There aren't many women who would attain orgasm with the contact of the penis on her breast. But he had poured in "Ki" energy from his penis to my breast for more than 20 minutes and then, finally, he ejaculated. At the same moment, I came, and I had orgasmic spasms at somewhere other than at the genital organs (at my breast, in this case).
It was not faking or imagination. I continued the spasm for more than 15 minutes. If he had not separated from me, I would have continued endlessly. He had spasm of about five minutes.
Also, my spasm wasn't the common "forerunner spasm" but that of a really big full body orgasm. Moreover, when I got into bed after an hour's ride home, the orgasmic spasms came back a little and I had aftershock waves for a while.
During another occasion, I came while he was putting his forehead on my breast. Sex is not limited to the genital organs. The genital connection is just one of several possibilities.
The connection that does not usually lead us to orgasm, such as penis and the breast or the head and breast, can bring us to an orgasm, and from this fact you can understand that orgasmic spasm is not limited to the genital organs but it depends on the placement of our consciousness. It is true that the physiological reaction of orgasm is the trigger for the spasm, but it is the location of your consciousness that determines if the spasm continues or not.
In Zen Tantra of Mumyouan, it has been a secret teaching to place one's consciousness on the top of the head right after the orgasm and to keep it there solidly. If you have any doubt about this, you should try first by masturbating. See the difference of the depth and the duration of the orgasm with your consciousness focused on your genital organs and with your consciousness placed on top of your head ( or on the center of your brain).
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