So I'm planning to go to the bars tonight
Posted Sat Dec 10, 2011 04:34 PM
Posted Sat Dec 10, 2011 04:45 PM
Oh, and have FUN!
Posted Sat Dec 10, 2011 05:06 PM
If you've never done this before, they will likely be turned off by you trying to pick someone up.
Women already generally assume that you probably want to have sex with them, so what will make them pick you over every other guy they assume wants to have sex with them?
If you're ridiculously good looking enough, just ignoring all the women there long enough will get you a lot of attention. lol
If you're not overly good looking, then be more assertive as mentioned above (talk to anyone and everyone), but when talking to women always remember that she assumes you want to have sex with her before you even opened your mouth, so don't bother giving her any further evidence to support her assumption.
Focus on being interesting, not interested.
This post has been edited by Bellalla: Sat Dec 10, 2011 05:08 PM
Posted Sat Dec 10, 2011 09:29 PM
Also you'll need to buy them drinks lol!
Then invite them to go home with you if they seem to be enjoying themselves ;)
Sometimes we say "yes" when we seem to be clicking.
This post has been edited by dimitra: Sat Dec 10, 2011 09:30 PM
Posted Sun Dec 11, 2011 04:56 AM
I just came back from a bar.. left early cuz i felt depressed...i was the only one that didn't have any girl with me..
Posted Sun Dec 11, 2011 05:38 AM
If what you really want is to pick up a girl (whatever it means), then, don't pretend you're there for something else.
Don't pretend you care for what they say, if you don't. Pretending is ugly.
If I wanna a man for sex, I walk to him and that's what I say. I don't pretend I find him this, or that. If what I want is sex, I'll let him know and avoid misunderstandings.
I'd be ugly to try to move a girl into a relationship with you, if all you really want is to get laid.
I see the point of talking to people without second thoughts, etc, but if you do have second thoughts (and thirds!) then, why to pretend?
Posted Sun Dec 11, 2011 10:35 AM
I know a lot of guys do this, but I think they're tools.
I was simply suggesting that the women at clubs in North America already assume that the men are there trying to have sex with them, so instead of trying to convey to them that he is interested in them, he can focus on BEING interesting HIMSELF.
Certainly, I know many of men who are simply direct and very successful with women that way, but they usually have an innate confidence that I find rare in North America.
Instead, most men I've seen latch on once they start talking to a girl with such intent, they remind me of used car salesman who just keep walking around beside you and trying at every opportunity to engage you in some way, trying to fill every awkward silence.
They appear to be grasping onto their chance to hook-up for dear life.
It sends a strong message that it's hard for them to get laid and, like the used car salesman, they can't afford to let an opportunity pass.