What would your 'rules' be if your girlfriend was bisexual?
Posted Fri Jun 01, 2007 07:24 AM
Say you are a guy and are dating a girl for a while. After experimenting and her exploring her interests more, she decides she likes girls as well. Obviously girl-on-girl can be a huge turn-on, but what about the insecurities and jealousy that might come with your lover having another?
What rules would you set for your relationship to make it last and be happy?
Posted Fri Jun 01, 2007 08:22 AM
Posted Fri Jun 01, 2007 09:09 AM
It's difficult to get her to understand that I'm ok with her having sex with her friend, it was the "cheating" aspect of it that bothered me at first...you just don't start having sex with someone else without talking about it first, right? I tried to equate it to my having sex with another female without her knowing it (yeah, she mentioned that it's the opposite sex in that case, but hey...we both like females, right?)
She won't kiss anyone else on the lips, which is one of her self imposed boundaries.
Posted Fri Jun 01, 2007 09:35 AM
I believe as soon as a third person is physically involved within a relationship it’s doomed.
Two people, whether, straight or gay need to be devoted to each other to make it work. They need to be best friends and totally confide in each other. This cannot happen in a three-way relationship.
Just my opinion…
Posted Fri Jun 01, 2007 10:25 AM
Posted Fri Jun 01, 2007 11:25 AM
I would never want to see my girl having sex with another guy even in a 3some (but i'd never have another guy in a 3some with me anyway so that's irrelevant, lol) What i'd be concerned about is that she may not want to see you having sex with her friend. Or her friend touching you at all.
I wouldn't set rules, I'd sit down and tell her how you honestly feel about it and work out an agreement. If there isn't an agreement that can be worked out, then it wasn't meant to be and it's probably good you're finding out now.
Posted Fri Jun 01, 2007 11:51 AM
Posted Fri Jun 01, 2007 12:01 PM
Posted Fri Jun 01, 2007 01:18 PM
Personally, If I were to lose my wife to anyone, I'd rather it WAS a women because I absolutely cannot compete. If it was a guy I'd always wonder what he had that I didn’t.
Posted Fri Jun 01, 2007 01:40 PM
Posted Fri Jun 01, 2007 04:36 PM
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Posted Fri Jun 01, 2007 05:06 PM
This is a very tough situation for me, I have been thinking about it a lot. It would bother me if the girl were a roller coaster of sorts, one day liking girls more and the next day liking guys more. I wouldn't want to worry about anyone stealing my girl away.
However, if she developed a fun and honest habit in which I could be a part of, I'd be happy with it.
Posted Fri Jun 01, 2007 05:26 PM
My gf doesn't do that, she's more "man-oriented" and "girl-oriented". I know that she looks at girls, likes girls, but doesn't love girls. I don't think that there'd be any problem whatsoever as long as you and your gf are in love.
Posted Fri Jun 01, 2007 05:28 PM
1) No 3rd person sexual activities without my knowledge . If I'm gonna risk my health I should be 100% informed . Her sleeping with them is the same as me sleeping with em . If I have to catch AIDS I'd atleast like to do the reQuired deed & not get em second hand ....
2) I have the option of declining for all parties involved any sex acts . The last thing I wanna do is kiss my S.O & taste poo ..........
3) Any contact with or use of illegal drugs voids all relationship aspects . Game over , we're done ! End of discussion
Basicly I'm too paranoid to go for this , viva Monogamy !!!!
Posted Sat Jun 02, 2007 09:18 PM
In mine...that is the reason my guy is messed up so I would never want to introduce another. He's been hurt enough by that