How much is Normal?
Posted Sun Jan 29, 2012 12:38 PM
Posted Sun Jan 29, 2012 12:56 PM
Normal is as much as have. What may be normal for one, may not be normal for another. Some couples have as little as once a year, and others have more than once a day.
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Posted Mon Jan 30, 2012 08:02 PM
The more important question is what do you want? You can't compare your needs to some sort of mythical "average". You are either in a sexually satisfying relationship or not. If you are close, feel good about it. If you are way off, you may need to leave.
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Posted Sat Mar 03, 2012 07:13 AM
This is tricky, and it more than likely wont work for you, but my Wife and I got stail (4yrs marriage- everyone goes through it), and shes not really that sexual of a person either (You know, now that we're married - I am a dirty joke, gimme big titties and big nice ass kind of raunchy "inappropriate" guy myself- opposites attract?) but with me it would get to the point to where I would start to become kind of upset because I thought she wasn't attracted to me. I'm not a bad looking dude either. Few extra lbs, but nothing you can see much of fully dressed. I thought I was doing something wrong, or not fulfilling her enough to where she just didn't want to mess with it or something. Our normal went from 4-5 times a week to 1-2 times a week post marriage, then got even worse, to where we're down to twice a month if we were lucky. I've communicated to her on a few occasions that I was leaning towards feeling like I wasn't happy sexually, and asked her what the deal was. She's in school, has a very streesful job, works LONG days, and said it had nothing to do with me physically, and that she was lucky to have someone as attractive as me for her husband and she said she prayed all the time to show thanks for ending up with me, it about made a dude tear up hearing it after this long drug out experience, but I didn't want to pressure her or make an issue of it. She's my Wife, I love her no matter what. So I was just biting the bullet. Well, nothing really improved, so she stayed home sick from work one day with a cold, and I brought her some Sprite at lunch with a light advacado sandwich like she wanted, and I was kind of acting a little pissy. She didn't ask what my problem was because she knew. I was getting that "no proper release" pissiness! She ended up sending me a text at work and said she loved me and that we could talk when I got home. I said just like this. "I'M DONE TALKING. NOTHINGS HAPPENING." I DO EVERYTHING FOR YOU, HELP YOU WITH HOMEWORK, DO ALL THE DISHES, LAUNDRY, SWEEPING, MOPPING, SHOPPING, ETC, and I do NOT DO ALL THIS TO BE IN WHAT I FEEL IS A LOVELESS MARRIAGE. (No kids yet FYI) She sent a text back that said she was sorry and how grateful she was, what a wonderful Husband I was ... blah blah, heard it all before.
I get off of work, and come pulling in the driveway and shes standing there with the garage door open so the breeze could come in, and she was in her robe and jammy-shirt on the phone with someone, and putting the few dishes away. (Probably b/c she felt bad about me always doing the chores) I got out of the car, walked up to her, took her phone, hung it up, threw her over my shoulder, carried her to the love seat in the family room (never shut the garage door mind you ) set her down semi-roughly on the love-seat on her back, she tried to sit up, but I pushed her back to her back, pulled her robe apart, and she was like what are you doing? I told her to be quiet and I raised her shirt up to get them tig ol bitties out put my finger in her mouth so she couldnt talk worth a shit, spread her legs open and just started easing into light but firm oral teasing, (and I can't EVER get her to let me do oral- she just has never liked it...period. I LOE DOING IT) she squirmed for a second, but I told her to "STOP" and that this was happening. 2 minutes later she was in my ear saying, "Let me suck your big cock..."
Ever since then, we've been a LOT more passionate with one another and have increased to about 8-10 times per month. All women have fantasy's man. ALL OF THEM. It was the only thing I felt I could try at the point I was in. I was NERVOUS as hell when I started doing it, and I thought I was going to have a stroke! I was scared she was going to get angrry at me, and if she would have resisted anymore, I would have stopped and just accepted defeat. She is my loving Wife. I think the fact that she had a terrible cold and me not caring about catching from her helped bring her walls down a bit. Not to mention my semi-aggressiveness which she's NEVER experienced from anyone. Its not for everyone, but it worked for me. Hope this helps a little if any. Sorry for the book.
Posted Mon Mar 05, 2012 12:18 PM
1 partner i had would open her legs and expect oral if i brushed her leg whilst rolling over.
another partner if the same instance arose would brush it off, roll over and forget it happened. With her it was once a month
Personally girl 1 was too much, (only cause i had to sleep as i would be falling asleep at work otherwise)
And girl 2 is on the other extreme
twice a week is great... but then another question entriley is
are you having sex? or are you both having sex?
I.E are you having sex with miss lazy or with someone who likes the keep the tables even by giving to recieve?
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