need ideas on rough sex any ideas peoples
Posted Thu Feb 02, 2012 03:45 PM
- scratch, bite, slap, push, slam, hold down, throw, fuck hard, etc. How hard is this concept, really?
But - before you start establish a safe word, and probably talk about boundaries. A BSDM checklist like the following isn't required but probably a good idea.
Really, if he is saying the rougher the better then you both need to do the checklist, he may have no idea that some peoples idea of rough includes blood and even permanent damage.
This post has been edited by Miss_C.: Wed Apr 11, 2012 09:50 AM
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Posted Sat Feb 04, 2012 05:08 AM
I guess the first question is: does he want it rough, or does he want to be dominated? Or maybe he wants to dominate you?
They do kind of intertwine but there is a difference. If he wants to be dominated, being tied up, blindfolded, collared, told what to do, slapped, spanked, etc are all good ideas. If he wants to dominate you, then let him do all those things to you. Whenever I dominate my girlfriend I demand that she refer to me as "master" and I will slap her if she doesn't, I make her follow orders and don't let her play with herself. I will grab her and toss her around where I want her and make it very clear to her that she is a fuck toy and her job is to please me. We of course only do this when we're both in the mood but you get the idea.
If he just wants it rough, then claw his back, ride him hard, don't be afraid to cuss and talk dirty, etc. I love it when I'm pounding my girlfriend and she digs her nails in to my back, stares me in the eyes and says "is that all you got?".
Posted Mon Mar 05, 2012 12:25 PM
Posted Tue Apr 10, 2012 04:27 PM
LOL, That does sound rough!
Posted Wed Apr 11, 2012 12:48 AM
Posted Wed Apr 11, 2012 07:24 AM
I'm not quite sure what are the reasons for you to get into extreme rough sex, but you really need to sit and think if you like it, how to go about it, and what are you going to get out of it. Personally, I'm not into getting bruised or having someone making me bleed... Sorry, that may be sexually appealing to someone else, but to me that doesn't equate to pleasure. Then, the situation of being with a fellow who just wants to have carte blanche to do whatever he wants with my body... Sorry, no... That's not going to happen.
As suggested above, you may need to think about what is that YOU WANT out of this; and if you still want this, then the best is to go to the BDSM forum to get some ideas.
Posted Wed Apr 11, 2012 09:15 AM
I hardly think that your "rough sex" is going to involve bleeding and bruising [removed by Mod].
Instead of her reference to the BDSM thread, which quite honestly is not the same as rough sex fantasy, you might want to look at the sex stories posts as some times a subject line like your interest might come up. Other post areas may contain some of what you are looking for as well.
This post has been edited by Miss_C.: Wed Apr 11, 2012 09:52 AM
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Posted Wed Apr 11, 2012 10:40 AM
Posted Wed Apr 18, 2012 12:37 PM
Just remember to start relatively softly. It allows you to be able to both request harder to increase the intensity. Like others have said, a safe word is always good to have. If you haven't heard of a safe word be sure to make it something random and not something that you would say normally under the circumstance. Make it as obvious as possible. Nobody in the midst of sex says something like "giraffe" for no reason.
As you become more comfortable, see if you guys are into toys and tie-ups etc.
Set boundaries, have open and honest communication and have fun and you guys should be fine