Yeah, I freak out too much.
Posted Tue Feb 21, 2012 03:26 PM
I've been dating this girl for 2 1/2 months now and I really really like her, and from what I can tell she feels the same way. However I'm worried that I'm taking up too much of her time and I don't want her to feel overwhelmed.
"Talk to her about it, communication is the key" yeah while that may be true it doesn't make my communication skills any better.
"If she really likes you then it wont mater" except for a week from now when I find out it did mater because she really didn't like me that much.
I wish I could believe my self when i say I'm just being dumb or overly worried but I can't and I can't stop thinking about it.
Posted Tue Feb 21, 2012 05:00 PM
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Posted Thu Mar 29, 2012 08:11 PM
Tell her something on this lines: «You probably have noticed that I like to spend time with you, right? I just want to let you know that the reason for this is because I like you a lot. However, I sometimes feel a little awkward because I feel that I'm taking too much of your time. The last thing I want to do is to keep you away from doing other thing that you might like doing... So, I was wondering how you feel about this, and maybe tell me if you'd like to spend more time on your own, or if you feel that we spend just about the right amount of time together...»
At this point, you have to prepare yourself for hearing the truth, so even if she says that she'd like to spend more time without you, don't take it as a rejection... It's actually good that she's honest with you in the sense that she'd be telling you the amount of time she'll be feeling comfortable with, and that probably will affect the relationship in a positive way.
So, let her speak freely, try to look attentive, don't let bad emotions overtake you, and just accept whatever she says. If she tells you, she needs more time without you, then try to establish which days she would like to have on her own, or the times when she'd like to see you.
Once you get to that negotiation point, try to reach something that you both feel comfortable with. Hopefully, you'll reach an agreement, and that would be the end of that episode in the series.
Posted Sun Apr 01, 2012 03:33 PM
Worrying about things like being able to pay your bills or your safety are valid fears and concerns within reason. Worrying about whether someone likes you or not isn't a valid concern. You need to learn to differentiate between the two and deal with them effectively.
Posted Tue Apr 03, 2012 12:50 AM