Borderline Personality Disorder Has anyone been diagnosed with BPD?
Posted Mon Apr 02, 2012 10:04 PM
Posted Thu Apr 05, 2012 03:41 PM
Posted Thu Apr 05, 2012 03:54 PM
I'm sorry, are you saying you have BPD?
Of course... I have a child who's been diagnosed with a number of behavioural conditions, and a mental health professional raised the possibility that she may have BPD. The condition would make sense in her case, but I'd like to know about personal experiences since she's still a child, and it seems that diagnosis is very difficult at her age.
Posted Thu Apr 05, 2012 03:55 PM
Posted Thu May 24, 2012 02:19 PM
Good luck.It's all about boundaries.
This post has been edited by TheMotion: Thu May 24, 2012 02:19 PM
Posted Fri May 25, 2012 06:13 AM
People have problems, and find life slightly more difficult to cope than others. But, rather than focusing souly on diagnosis, sometimes it is better to take a step back and just look at peoples difficulties on a practical level. Bite sized chunks, what is the difficulty, and what action or support might help...not chemical. Admittedly, medication can help to block out certain behaviours or thought patterns that make it difficult for someone to function (I was on medication for about 6/7 years). But the brain is an amazing peice of machinery, that with the correct support and motivation, can be trained without it.
I live in a university town (that is the second in the UK for psychology specialism) and I am also part of a Religious Society, where people who are concerned with social justice and ethics congregate, because of this, I am fortunate to have many friends from academic circles, a couple of which being professors in psychology and social studies.
We have spoken a lot about mental illness, as I have my own personal interest from my own difficulties. BPD has come into these conversations and defstar is quite right to refer to it as "that little chestnut"...basically, BPD is often used as a blanket diagnosis. If someone self harms, it is shelled out at the drop of a hat, without any consideration into the person's unique situation as an individual (one of the issues with labels).
Any psychiatrist or psychologist you meet, who uses the DSM with enthusiasm, is not a good psychologist/psychiatrist, and I suggest you run away.
I have studied many of the online BPD resources and frankly I am shocked at the assumptions that are shelled out. They are portrayed as manipulative and angry people. What a horrible thing to label a person who is having problems coping.
A counsellor (who really messed me up) once told me when I asked, that my diagnosis was Borderline Personality. Following another hospital visit, and a new counsellor, when I asked the same question do you know what she said?
She said, that she didnt think it mattered. She said, that there are a list of symptoms like tick boxes, and if you happen to fit more than five, you are catagorised as having that illness, and in my case, they used the borderline personality list (simply because of the self harm), but they could have used any. The point is, I am suffering and finding life difficult, and it would be better for us just to get to know each other and look at the difficulties I am having...not what a list "says" I have.
This counsellor eventually sent me on a mindfulness meditation course, and it changed my life. Not just in mental health, but my whole philosophy and attitude which I suppose has a big influence on mental health. But, she sent me on it when I had gotten to a stage where I was receptive to it. I have always been on the alternative scene, so the idea of learning about meditation was naturally appealing to me.
However, however, the psychology dept where I live has specialized in the use of non-spiritual meditation techniques to assist with mental health conditions, and there are a lot of positive things happening in this area.
Be careful. Just imagine how it might feel for a child to be told that they are behaving a certain way because they have this "fault" in their personality. Not only is this incredibly disempowering, but, if they think it is a permenant problem with their personality, what is the point in trying to overcome it? This is the problem with the DSM and the whole value base of psychiatry today. It has trained the world to discriminate, and people think they (psychiatrists) are Gods.
I have a couple of close friends who are doing doctorates in clinical psychology, and you would be amazed at some of the stories I hear, often, these people who have the "qualification" to catagorise our personalities and judge us, are seriously messed up themselves.
I am not saying any of this applies to you Olive, I am just using your thread as an outlet to express my feelings and thoughts, with the hope that something in what I say might be helpful.
I no longer fit any of the BPD tick boxes. I am also in my third year of a health and social care related subject that I cant include here for legal reasons. I am also one of the success stories of the counselling service I was helped by (over here, people deemed at particular risk get free help from the NHS, which is perhaps why they focus more on non medicated permenant solutions).
Which, I am not saying to show off, but rather give as a message of hope.
It may be, that your kid has a bit of a rocky journey ahead, but, I wouldnt be without what I have gained from my difficult experiences.
This post has been edited by Jewelz: Fri May 25, 2012 04:48 PM
Posted Fri May 25, 2012 06:08 PM
Posted Sat May 26, 2012 10:07 PM
Posted Sat May 26, 2012 10:17 PM
Thank you for the ample reply blackplato... I appreciate it.
My reason for asking is to get a better understanding of what's coming ahead. It's been about 5 years since we've been at this with no clear direction of where things are going to land. She's very young and has barely entered puberty, so I expect another few years of more struggle trying to even predict what triggers her episodes. It's an taxing situation, also emotionally draining.
If at all, I wish she was diagnosed with BPD only so I can end her taking medications. Also, if she has a solid diagnosis as opposed to just a collection of symptoms, I will have a more defined path as to what is that I have to do in order to get her the best treatment available. I am not leaving a rock unturned for her... I sometimes get tired of having sleepless nights and stressful mornings, but what I need is to have hope that she'll become a productive individual once she reaches adulthood.
Posted Sat May 26, 2012 10:18 PM
Posted Sat May 26, 2012 10:19 PM
Posted Sat Jun 09, 2012 10:00 PM
My point is that people with BPD ultimately have to seek care and treatment themselves. No matter how hard loved ones may try to help someone who is BPD, it is up to the diagnosed to seek treatment and only they can start making progress towards a better life. The teenage and young adulthood years with be the toughest years of her life, not to mention yours as well. You have to do your best to stay strong no matter how bad things get, and never give up on her. You also can't shelter and protect her from all the evils and temptations of the world either, so the best thing you can do is be supportive, patient, understanding, and show her that you love her even though at times she will deny it fiercely. It's a delicate balance.
Not only have I had personal experience with BPD, but I have studied general and abnormal psychology in college and still maintain a strong interest in it. I take pride in helping others deal with psychological issues, especially mental disorders and illnesses, and I would never bullshit someone or try to impersonate a professional psychologist. But I have insight into these things and I really hope it helps you and your daughter cope.
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