Should i be worried?
Posted Mon Apr 09, 2012 03:06 PM
I've been with my boyfriend for a few months and he's never made me orgasm. I'm 19 years old and have not ever had a guy make me cum. Its weird because on my own i can do it in a few minutes, with the help of porn. I've tried "relaxing and just enjoying it" but that doesn't seem to work. I'm too worried that its going to jeopardize our relationship in the long run, i really do love him but this is really frustrating for me. Sex toys and watching porn with him are out of the question as well. I was thinking of abstaining from porn, would that help?
Thanks in advance
Posted Mon Apr 09, 2012 03:09 PM
Posted Mon Apr 09, 2012 03:52 PM
Also, why don't you feel like you can use toys or watch porn with your boyfriend?
Posted Mon Apr 09, 2012 06:16 PM
Unfortunately I think you might have to stop with the porn and toys while you do - sorry it's the only way for now. Later you might be able to reintroduce them. I dated a woman once who could only get off with a vibrator. Took her a month of non-usage but we got there and it was worth it for her. Later she could use a vibrator occasionally and still be ok. You have trained your body one way, need to work to train it the other way.
Good luck - what we do for love...
Posted Mon Apr 09, 2012 06:34 PM
Is your boyfriend only performing penis vaginal intercourse? If this is what he is doing exclusively the success rate for an orgasm is likely pretty low especially if he is inexperienced. How is the foreplay, the kissing, touches to your non genital but erotic zones. Does he perform oral, use his hands, ensure lubrication? Does he simply cum to early? What is his experience level? Has he read any books or done internet searches on how to please a woman? Guidance from you is good but if he has no understanding of female physiology he needs to do some reading or watch some instructional videos. There are tons of resources out there.
Ensure you don't fake an orgasm with him as you deserve to be fully pleasured and he won't learn if he thinks he's a god in bed. If he's not willing to learn than you should consider moving on.