Posted Sat Apr 21, 2012 12:07 AM
Right now all I think about is her, I don't really know what to do, I don't think we should get back together but I feel bad about lying she won't even talk to me. She hates me in one way I got what I wanted but on the other I'm just idk. I miss her but I don't want to get back together... what do you all think?
Posted Sat Apr 21, 2012 01:25 AM
Try 30 days no contact ( That includes texting, emails, facebook twitter etc)
This post has been edited by SemperFi: Sat Apr 21, 2012 01:25 AM
Posted Sun Apr 22, 2012 08:41 AM
Posted Mon Apr 23, 2012 02:47 PM
Posted Mon Apr 23, 2012 11:24 PM
"Sometimes the pig walks to slaughter because it is better for the farmer."
I realize this is not a perfect analogy. In the TV show the character lied to protect the child, you lied, and made your Ex think you were a cheating ass because you thought ending the relationship would be better for the both of you, or maybe you were just thinking of yourself - I don't know.
What we do know is, that it worked. She thinks you are a cheating ass, and now you are broken up for good.
It would have been better if you told the truth because she now she feels betrayed and hurt, and is probably going to tell people you cheated, and future GFs may find out that you cheated. Then you are going to have to go and explain that you are not really a cheater, just a liar. (I know, I know, you are not really a liar, you told one lie. But then again, how many people do you have to eat to be a cannibal?)
I don't see why you would do this, I can't think of a more hurtful lie. However, if you go back now and tell here the "Truth" what would it be? Would it sound something like:
"The truth is I didn't cheat on you. I lied to you because I was too weak to break it off for good, and I know if you came back I wouldn't be able to say no."
Then she will probably ask "Why are you telling me this, do you want to get back together?"
To which you will answer "No."
Frankly that sounds worse to me. Of course that is the "best case scenario" because it assumes she believes you were lying then and not now, which is difficult because you have lost some credibility.
If you can think of a better way of phrasing it, then please run it past us. If not, you made a decision, live with it.
This post has been edited by Davendra: Mon Apr 23, 2012 11:34 PM
Posted Tue Apr 24, 2012 01:15 PM
Posted Wed Apr 25, 2012 01:38 PM
You should just be full out honest with someone, especially the person you supposedly love.. It does get sad and rather lonely when your s/o is out of the picture, it's like they are your best friend and now you want them gone..
Your best bet would be to take up on a hobby, I personally just started reading again and it fills up somewhat of the empty space in my life. Hang out with friends go out and meet people. Maybe in the future you guys will be able to be civil and you can be honest with one another on what you truly want.
Posted Wed Apr 25, 2012 05:36 PM
Posted Sun Jul 08, 2012 12:00 PM
Posted Tue Jul 10, 2012 05:04 AM
Your relationship, sorry, but it looked doomed from the off, you can not keep breaking up, it not good for you.
Look, she has moved on, its what you wanted to happen, so start all over afresh, find yourself a partner who you can get on with, stop living the past.