Can I, and How do I ask my boyfriend to have sex with his best friend?
Posted Thu Apr 26, 2012 04:46 PM
I am 23 and my boyfriend is 21, we have been going out with only eachother for 3 years. I love him very much and we have a good relationship. We will even be moving in together in a few months. Now, we both really like having sex, and have "joked" about trying some things other then just standard sex...but we havnt actualy tried anything different. Both of us have been super shy, but both of us have gotten over this A LOT over the past few years. Whenever I say we need to try new things, he says okay and good but it just doesnt happen. I have never asked to try anything specific. My boyfriend has had the same guy as his best friend for 10 years...they consider them each others brother. I would say me and my boyfriend are as close to eachother as he is with his best friend, even though they have known eachother 10 years (I am my boyfriends 1st/only girlfriend). I always thought his best friend was attractive, but lately I am feeling very attracted to him in a way that I would like to makeout with him and maybe have sex. I dont want to date him, or leave my boyfriend in any way. I would NEVER cheat on my boyfriend and im sure his friend wouldnt do that to him either. I have been brushing off this feeling, but it seems to be sticking around..I REALLY want to mess around with his best friend just for fun/trying something new/ I am very attracted to him. Jokingly a few times I have said something like "Yeah he should join us haha" and my boyfriend will laugh and jokingly call me a freak (not freak in a mean way lol). Would it be terrible for me to seriously ask my boyfriend if he would be into something with me and his best friend? It would'nt matter to me if my boyfriend wanted to watch, join, or just not be there but be ok with it. I dont know if I should even try to ask him a thing like this...and If I do ask, how should I put it? IK when he watches porn he only watches girls with girls so I dont think hed be turned on by me with another guy
and before someone asks, I dont have any girl friends into that sort of thing to offer him. IDK how can you ask your boyfriend you love if you can do it with his best friend? Do people do this sort of thing? Im worried that me being honest with him about wanting to try this, He could think Im not happy with him or something.
Thanks for any advice!!
Posted Thu Apr 26, 2012 04:55 PM
Posted Thu Apr 26, 2012 05:05 PM
Wow, that is a tough question. If you are going to ask him then I suggest asking him when he is very horny. that might do the trick
Posted Thu Apr 26, 2012 05:37 PM
Might make them hate each other, might make him hate you. It's a death blow if you ask me.
But trust me, I've wanted to do the same!
I completely agree. Not a good idea IMHO. I see both relationship and freindship being destroyed with this one question, especially considering he is shy and new to sexual relations. He'll probably freak out and resent both girlfriend and his best friend.
Posted Thu Apr 26, 2012 05:45 PM
Posted Thu Apr 26, 2012 07:17 PM
Posted Thu Apr 26, 2012 07:50 PM
Posted Thu Apr 26, 2012 08:27 PM
The above is very good advice. You can even say you suggest his friend because you know you can both trust him and you both like him. Tell him it's much safer than some random stranger.
Posted Thu Apr 26, 2012 08:49 PM
Posted Thu Apr 26, 2012 09:55 PM
There are exceptions to this rule, but rarely in that age group.
Posted Thu Apr 26, 2012 10:04 PM
Posted Thu Apr 26, 2012 11:21 PM
if any one of my friends had a situation like that like there's no way i'd be able to do such a thing.
This post has been edited by ChromeNation: Thu Apr 26, 2012 11:22 PM
Posted Fri Apr 27, 2012 12:17 AM
Posted Fri Apr 27, 2012 03:49 AM
Posted Fri Apr 27, 2012 04:55 AM
Talk with him about adding a third and see how he feels, he may not want that. And sometimes fantasies aren't meant to be played out.. keep the best friend as ur go to fantasy..
Posted Fri Apr 27, 2012 08:23 AM
Posted Fri Apr 27, 2012 09:51 AM
I like the idea posted further up. Bring up the idea of a two guy one girl sandwich and see how he feels. Maybe let him suggest his friend; bet that's who he'd have in mind!
Just be ready for when he wants a threesome with one of your friends too