I have to say I've been browsing around other threads and whatnot and this seems like an amazing community and will look into what the VIP is all about. I also want to add that i am not here to try and cheat on my gf or anything like that, I'm not that type of person. I am here for discussion, advice and to find information on improving our very bland sex life (I'm always up for new things to try but she's not at all really). Thanks.
Now, I'm 26 and have been with my gf for coming up to 6 years.
We have our arguments and whatnot like everyone else but the huge thig that bothers me is our whole financing situation. I make $2600-$3300 per month and she's set at $2000 per month...
I am a saver, however I drive a really nice car, that said, I work 2 side jobs myself so generate extra income there so that helps me save there. I also have a decent amount of $ saved.
Now, she on the other hand spends spends and spends and saves nothing, but the worst part is she has maxed all of her visas and well you know te rest, having a very hard time paying them off.
We've talked about this a lot however very very seriously a few times.
I have left her once because of this but she convinced me shed fix this (2 years ago) and I told her of she doesn't fix this I willseriously consider moving again. Of course she was upset and said shed try, but trying isn't good enough she has to fix it. Just for the record I'm not a controlling person I want to have $ between us so we can buy a house in the future...
I have an easy out where I could move with a friend to another apartment and I'm considering doing it. The only thing is is that behind the laziness and money issues she has, I love her so much and would do anything for her which is why I am finding this so difficult. There's only a couple of things I want her to do which is not much to ask (at least I wouldn't think so) which is try and eat healthier and lose some weight (for health reasons and she hates the way she looks but I'm ok with it), save $ for the future and not be so lazy and excercise with me.
Sorry for the long post, I'm just so stressed out and need some advice. Have any of you ever gone through something like this? After all financial matters are the biggest reason for relationship/marriage issues (and really it's sad that money does this to us). Like I said I love my gf so much and this is why I'm having such a hard time dealing with this, and I'm sure I'm not the first...
Btw at 26 years old, having a lot of... Foreskin problems (phimosis) I finally gave in and got it done. If any guys here are having issues where it hurts, get it done, 2.5 weeks later I have noprr crazy sensitive issues and all stitches almost gone!!!
This post has been edited by Xtreme1986: Sun May 13, 2012 05:11 AM