Tips for first time anal?
Posted Mon May 14, 2012 05:08 AM
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Posted Mon May 14, 2012 06:05 AM
Firstly, one must learn how to walk before you can run. This process is a staged process for what could be many a nights of anal fun.
For the first go around, I would suggest to use a finger only. Get her use to having something in her ass. Do not go for the gusto the first time, again, stages. After several nights of anal finger play and she has gotten use to her being played with, then I suggest introducing some form of small dildo or but plug. Again, stages.
After she has gotten use to a plug or dildo, then she may be ready to take your cock. Once you've graduated to that stage, be sure to go very very slow, and the advice of her using a vibrator would be very well served at this stage.
I am sure for others this technique may be too slow, but remember the turtle and the hare ? Slow and steady wins the race. This process is what I used with my wife. At one point in time she was not too keen on anal play. But after going through this process, she now enjoys anal once a week.
Another thing I strongly suggest, have her flush her ass out with an enima. It helps remove fecal matter and also allows for her to feel more comfortable and confident about anal play.
As for your main question.....how does she enjoy it ? My wife prefers missionary. While on her back she is more comfortable and this also gives a much better angle for g-spot stimulation through anal sex. From that angle, I can aim my cock upwards against her vaginal wall, which adds to the stimulation. Because my wife is a squirter, we both prefer this position because it allows her maximum stimulation through anal play, g-spot stimulation and clitoral stimulation.....the triple pleasure threat.
I hope this helps.....and always remember, lube lube lube lube lube....and do not forget the lube. No matter how good it feels to you, just be sure that it feels better for her, because if she feels great about the expereince, then you can count on this act happening over and over again.
Posted Mon May 14, 2012 08:50 AM
Posted Mon May 14, 2012 10:05 AM
Fingering could help but could also do more harm than good. Even the shortest trimmed of fingernails can hurt. I would suggest a small toy to start. Also rimming her will help set the mood. I tongue on my ass hole makes me want something in it immediately. I happen to like anal a lot.
I will agree with the posts above saying use lots of lube, go slow and listen to her. If you sense she is uncomfortable but doesn't say anything stop and ask. As I said I like anal a lot but one thing that really made me happy with my current partner/boyfriend is, even though he knows I am very anal experienced, he still asks me several times as we are doing it if I'm OK and comfortable. Show her you care more about her comfort and well being than you do about you cumming in her ass.
If it is also her first time expect it to bleed and don't be worried. That is normal. I think I bled the first four or five times and even now if I go 6 months or more without anal I bleed. That is very normal. Don't let it worry you. Also, if it is her first time, call her the next day to make sure she is ok. That will go a long way with her feelings towards you because you again were concerned about her comfort. Anal sex can be a beautiful thing if done right.
Posted Mon May 14, 2012 10:34 AM
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