Posted Tue May 15, 2012 06:24 PM
Posted Tue May 15, 2012 07:01 PM
Get over the inadequicy issues, explore together with the vibrator. You can learn more technique as you go along, but for now, atleast she is wanting to share her orgasm with you. You should embrace and accept the oppertunity.
As for cumming to quick, edging and kegals, look them up and learn how to bring yourself to the edge ( edging ) without letting you semen to release ( pc muscle control/kegels ).
Posted Tue May 15, 2012 07:20 PM
Posted Wed May 16, 2012 02:08 AM
My fiance and I had a similar situation when we were younger and had just started having sex. Niether of us really new any better, and like you I thought that I should be giving her orgasm everytime from intercorse alone. I was always able to make her cum orally or manually but not throught intercorse. I eventually told her to start rubbing her clit during sex or I would do it for her and she was able to cum no problem and we would cum together, which was amazing the first time and still is. However, using your hand can be hard sometimes so I got her a viberater and she loved it and stille uses it almost everytime we have sex.
There is nothing wrong her using a viberator during sex nor by herself. If she wants to explore LET HER cause it will only lead to better things for you and improve your sex alltogether. You can even do it with her, watch her as she watches you. That way you are still a part of it.
Another thing to try is different positions that will provide some stimulation of her clit through the motion and body contact. Probably the best is her on top, that way she can control the speed and motion etc.
Trust me man, don't stress over it and turn it into a fun experience. Don't ever try and keep her from "exploring" cause she will probably resent you for it in the long run. Besides its not a bad thing at all.
This post has been edited by Miss_C.: Wed May 16, 2012 08:46 AM
Reason for edit:: Removed specified age.
Posted Wed May 16, 2012 04:54 AM
Posted Wed May 16, 2012 07:58 AM
Posted Wed May 16, 2012 08:44 AM
The majority of the site is "the advice place." Please refrain from posting the same thread more than once. You may not get a reply in the first few minutes, so you'll have to be patient.
I know you're feeling negative right now, but I think a vibrator might be just the thing to give her a kick-start. If you're so worried about this toy, you could try choosing one together. Have her get one that doesn't resemble a penis. There are thousands of vibrators to choose from, so you don't have to get one that's shaped like another penis, and you don't necessarily have to get one that's larger than you or anything like that. Look at online sex stores with her and try choosing one that's not too complicated. I wouldn't recommend starting with a rabbit-style vibrator because there are just too many moving parts. Instead, try something simple with a non-threatening shape and size. You might want to try just a small bullet or egg vibe to start. They're easy to hide, easy to use (usually a button with just one speed), and relatively cheap, so if she doesn't like it, then you're not wasting your money.
Check out my blog entry here about the various types of sex toys and some advice on choosing a sex toy.