NEW!! My partner and I are talking about finally having sex.
Posted Sat May 26, 2012 02:20 AM
Posted Sat May 26, 2012 02:48 AM
Also don't be afraid to let him eat your pussy... My girlfriend didn't want it at first so she missed about 2 months of good oral sex. I never understood her thinking behind that, I guess not that many girls would think like that... pretty weird.
Besides that, just enjoy the moment, you don't have to be stressed about anything !
Posted Sat May 26, 2012 06:36 AM
Patience, patience, patience. Make sure the foreplay lasts for at least a few days before it happens. Nothing that puts pressure on the girl, but just letting her know that the kisses will get hot that saturday night when you come over. Then see whether she's up for it or not. In my experience, without having been with a virging, relatively unexperienced women are still looking for the guy to take control. This is mighty good to do if you're a guy and the girl is more experienced, but it doesn't work too well the other way. It makes sense because she probably wants it to be good for the guy.
Missionary position would be my recommendation. Not for any anatomically related bonus, but because it is her first time, so you don't want her to feel like you're far away. She has to feel closely related to what's happening and what you are doing together, and that works best with eye contact. It also opens up for an easier way for her to vocalize any concerns she might have, or any lack of comfort going on.
Penetration should take no less than 15 seconds, and depth should take no less than 60 seconds. So there's not a lot in it for the guy for the initial phases. And what's more important is that even though sex is about both parties involved, when it's a girl's first time, it is NOT about the guy at all. So be there for her and make it as comfortable and nice for her as possible. It can feel like a gift for some women, so it should be treated as such.
Hope there's something in there you could use.
Posted Sat May 26, 2012 07:52 AM
Posted Sat May 26, 2012 09:41 AM
Chances are it'll be disappointing, because it's a first for both of you and nerves may quick in. But it gets much better as you relax into your sexual life.
Only do it when both of you really want it. You don't have to do it just because other people are doing it.
Don't forget protection. His spermatozoids and your eggs don't care if it is a first time: they'll try to do their thing.
Posted Sat May 26, 2012 02:23 PM
Build the anticipation.
Lots of foreplay.
Be tender with one another.
Be prepared for awkwardness.
Don't expect fireworks and miracles the first time out.
Talk to each other, both about what you're liking and what you aren't.
Listen to each other, and adjust what you're doing based on the feedback.
I believe the secret to great sex is twofold:
1) Give a damn about your partner's pleasure.
2) Pay attention to what they're telling you (with their voice, with their breathing, with their body).
Those two principles will give you a clear idea of what to make them feel wonderful: do more of what gets a positive reaction and less of what gets a negative reaction. If both people are approaching it like this, both should have an excellent time.
That's it. Give a damn and pay attention.