Can a woman come off as too sexual?
Posted Thu May 31, 2012 10:30 PM
Posted Thu May 31, 2012 10:39 PM
Posted Thu May 31, 2012 10:41 PM
That is a good question, I want to say no way!! but its really a subjuective thing, you have to be able to read how people are responding to you and cut back if need be. Everyone is different, you have to ask yourself why would you want to be with someone who is not comfortable with you, hiding who you are will only cause problems later on.
Posted Thu May 31, 2012 10:57 PM
Yeah no worries about me changing any; I am just curious to hear what you guys think.
Posted Thu May 31, 2012 11:41 PM
Posted Fri Jun 01, 2012 02:45 AM
Posted Fri Jun 01, 2012 02:54 AM
Posted Fri Jun 01, 2012 03:07 AM
As to what are do's and dont's. Playing hard to get was never my thing. If there's a woman I like and she is available (and I always assume she is) I will waste no time to approach and let her know. I don't find anything wrong if a woman does exactly the same. After all, I am a man and she is a woman. Don't get me wrong, women have a lot more to offer than just sex. But if sexual attraction is taken out of the equation what's left? I can get a lot of fun hanging out with my male buddies, intellectual thirst quenched in discussions with my friends, emotional support from my family, etc. But I can't have sex with them! Sex is what brings men and women together; it's simple as that. Everything else is secondary and can be deal maker or breakeris only later on.
So if you see a guy you really like and he is taking interest in you don't play games but encourage him in his advances. I'm not suggesting you should immediately jump his bones and fuck his brains out. Let him know you like him, what he is doing you find flattering, and you are fine with him trying to get into your panties. Always keep in mind that men, and more so the younger ones, are terrible at mind reading and can be completelly oblivious to what you consider as clear signs of your interest. Sensual smile, glint in your eye, casual but strategically placed brush of your hand or body goes long way. Flirting and seduction hardly need any words; it's all about attitudes and intentions. Whether sex happens that very same evening or few day later is irrelevant and real men will not think of you any better or worse either way. For those who do, they are not worth of your time and attention and you will be much better off without them.
This post has been edited by SirFoggy: Fri Jun 01, 2012 03:10 AM
Posted Fri Jun 01, 2012 08:17 AM
Posted Sun Jun 10, 2012 02:50 PM
Posted Sun Jun 10, 2012 04:11 PM
A woman who comes across as too sexual for one person would be the ideal woman for another.
There is no one size fits all.
Posted Sun Jun 10, 2012 04:11 PM
Posted Sun Jun 10, 2012 04:29 PM
This is a question that depends on the man you're asking. A lot of men think it's a blessing to come across a very sexual woman... I think the answer has also some cultural undertones. I live in Canada, and it's rare that I find someone who'd think a woman has had too much sex in her life. Of course you can always find ads on Craigslist of men looking for virgins to deflower and show them a thing or two about life... It's interesting that these men always describe themselves as worldly and experienced. Quite frankly, I think that's a lot of bull shit.
There are plenty of men who enjoy the company of a sexually sophisticated woman, but of course, they understand that she might know a thing or two they don't. It's all about the male ego. Some men don't want to be called on their bull shit, others are simply there to enjoy life. Learn how to distinguish one from the other and just be yourself.
This post has been edited by Olive: Sun Jun 10, 2012 04:32 PM
Posted Sun Jun 10, 2012 06:30 PM
Posted Mon Jun 11, 2012 07:05 AM
Posted Sun Jun 17, 2012 06:54 PM
Posted Sun Jun 17, 2012 10:57 PM
However, watch your crowd. Some people like it, and some don't. As to who gets turned off and who doesn't? Who cares? As long as you're being yourself - it's relative. And if "guys" don't like it, then they aren't worth your time. If they're THAT uptight, imagine what they are like in the bedroom! Thankfully - that's not your problem!
Posted Tue Jun 19, 2012 04:00 PM
I also think a lot of guys will be worried if you come across as too sexual, they will be afraid of loosing you, afraid of what their friends would think, although some of us enjoy the idea of other guys wanting our partners, as it reaffirms their desirability to us although the outright sexuality may eventually lead to jealousy issues. Overall guys i think guys want the queen in the kitchen, whore in the bedroom.