So here it goes:
I am military and so is my wife. We have been together for about 2 1/2 years and we lived together for the first year of that. Well she got moved by the military overseas which was about 4000 miles away from me. We decided that we were going to make it work and talk all the time and do little things to help us. Well everything was going great had a great relationship before she moved and after. We decided to get married and in January we had our wedding. Well ever since the wedding she had gotten really distant. We talk through our phones all the time through google. So it's pretty much like texting. So March 31st comes around and she talked to me a little in the morning and then she said she was going to a movie with her friends. Cool. So later on I went to write something on her facebook and saw that she was tagged at the club. She never said she was going there. Meanwhile I'm trying to get a hold of her and can't. Well 14 hours goes by and she finally wakes up and messages me back. She said she went to a friends house afterwards and eventually I found out she was lying and she really spent the night at some guys house with the friends she went to the club with. I had suspicions she was with the guy and something happened between them. She claimed nothing did.
The days following we talked and she apologized for lying and said she would never do it again. Well the next weekend the same thing happened, went out drinking didn't message slept at that dudes house again except she spent friday and saturday at his house and lied about it. Eventually she came clean. I probably didn't do the right thing and told her I didn't believe her that nothing happened and I accused her of having an affair. Then comes a few weeks ago. She said she was going over to the neighbors house to drink and she did. She left her skype/webcam on so when she came home at like 6am I heard her talking to a guy.. Then I hear her walk upstairs and shut the laptop and not even acknowledge me. She swears nothing happened that day besides them talking. (I believe her now and I'll tell you why in a minute)
Well I found out april 1st that I would be soon going to live with her. I reported here on the 1st of June. So she's sleeping and the guy I thought she was messing around with texts her. I pretend I'm her and long story short find out through him and then her later that she had an affair 3 weeks ago. It was after the times I have previously mentioned and she still swears nothing happened then. She said I was being overly pushy and saying that she cheated so much that she just went ahead and did it. She said the affair is over but she said she blew him 1 time then had sex with him two separate times after that with also giving him a bj.
I love this woman to death but with all the lying she has done in the past 2 months I don't know if I can take this anymore but am quite scared cause I just got a divorce about 3 years ago after that marriage falling apart due to other reasons besides being faithful. The cheating just stabbed me in the heart. After she told me she didn't cry at all and told me she was super sorry but didn't really show too much affection or emotion at all.
I need to know what you would all do if you were in my position. Keep in mind right now I have no car no belongings because my stuff from my house is being shipped here and wont be here in about a month. I sold my car before I came here to pay for my house I'm selling and will be upside down on. And all my friends and family are stateside.
I asked her if she would be ok with me cheating on her to get back at her just to see what she would say, but I would honestly never do that to anyone. She said if it makes me feel better to go through with it. But again I never would.
Please tell me what you guys would do or please give me some advise.
This post has been edited by firstname.lastname@example.org: Sun Jun 03, 2012 02:22 AM