Posted Mon Jun 11, 2012 07:54 AM
I truly would appreciate your feedback, views, opinions.
As some of you know my hubby has something of a heart condition, he has had 3 heart attacks, 1 heart failure, is fitted with 6 stents and 1 ICD, Just over a week ago, his cardiologist told him he needs a Transplant.
so, you can see how sick he truly is, but we still have an enjoyable sex life, well we did, we went away for a week to do some soul searching, to figure out what to do, it truly is prying on my mind, and since we was told this, i have just not been there to have sex, am i scared of what it could lead to? yes i am!
If he has the transplant, and survives, how am i going to feel? will i want sex again? my body says yes, my head says no, i truly am in turmoil over this, and just do not know where to turn.
Posted Mon Jun 11, 2012 09:14 AM
Best of luck in the upcoming health issues and my sincerest wish for a speedy recovery.
Posted Mon Jun 11, 2012 11:47 AM
Posted Tue Jun 12, 2012 07:16 AM
Saysoon: thank you for your reply, it is indepth and logical, unlike me putting this in the forums to start with, you just do not think straight with shocks like this.
Indeed emotions are everywhere, but so is the normality of looking into it, thats when the shock hits you, an example being this.
'about 8 in every 10 transplant patients in the UK live for at least 3 years after the transplant' and it goes to 5 out of 10 after 10 years, its a serious operation, no guarantee that you will wake even, it scares the pants out of me.
Thanks for comments, i appreciate them. and thank you kindly for your Hugs (((xxx)))
Posted Mon Jun 18, 2012 09:35 PM
Posted Tue Jun 19, 2012 04:19 AM
'like any other physical activity having sex can increase the heart rate and blood pressure, however, sex is just as safe as any other equally energetic forms of physical activity or exercise'
ok, i get that, but he is the one that might want sex, but not be strong enough, so i would have to get on top, in principle that sounds fine, but when i get going, i get going, and if i press my hand on his freshly broken chest, he will feel it, it is minor things like that that concern me.
i think its back to the book, to see what positions would be ideal as long as there is no pressure on his chest
Posted Tue Jun 19, 2012 05:51 AM
Posted Thu Jun 28, 2012 05:29 AM
Thank you kindly for thinking about me at this time.
Posted Sun Jul 01, 2012 10:33 AM
Just a quick drop in to address an issue you raised early about, you being ontop and riding him, and a habit of you placing your hand on his chest to stabalise yourself.
Do you have a double bed with a footboard/headboard if so could you have sex laying close to and at 90 degrees to the head board, so you can stabalise yourself by holding the head/foot board instead of putting your hand on his chest. And if it is appropriate to stop you instinctively leaning on his chest, could you perhaps handcuff your wrist to the head/foot board so you don't slip down into old habits.
Just a quick thought I was having.
Posted Mon Jul 02, 2012 04:36 PM