How to interpret this? Younger female interested or is it just me?
Posted Wed Jun 13, 2012 08:10 AM
I play a lot of golf, usually 3-4 rounds a week. Last season I never paid much attention to the servers in the members' lounge but this year I can't help but notice one in particular. A few weeks ago me and a few other guys had just finished a men's night event and were in the restaurant/lounge. This server, who is about half my age (I'm 41, she's maybe 22 at best), literally bent over backwards to serve us compared to the other tables around us. At one point, she made a couple of cute remarks and flashed a knowing grin or two when I answered her questions. As we were leaving, one of the guys across the table from me made the comment "dude, she wants you". I denied it and never gave it another thought.
Last night a few of us were in a pub and who walks in? Yep. Her and a friend. A few minutes later she walks past our table on her way back from the bathroom and as she is going by she sort of giggles, gives a shy wave and disappears. Again, one of the guys at my table (who has never been at the golf course or knows who she is) says to me "I think she wants to take you home". Five minutes later I get a Facebook message from her as well as a friend request. I haven't accepted it yet nor did I reply to her message that was a simple "hi" with a ;-) at the end.
I'm telling myself that it is nothing. How can a 22 year old absolute cutie want anything to do with me? Is this a case of she knows I'm married and is just sadistically torturing me? I'm old enough to be her father for crying out loud. Any thoughts? I'm at a total loss here. And before anyone tries to link alcohol to my train of thought, I don't drink LOL.
Posted Wed Jun 13, 2012 08:16 AM
im 24 and tend to go for older men, i feel they are more attractive, assertive and normally not assholes .
fb can be dangerous esp if u get someone who obsesses and comments on everything then ur wife might of think u have cheated. access what shes like and if u feel its getting too much, talk to her. that is if u dont want things to go any further.
Posted Wed Jun 13, 2012 09:45 AM
Posted Wed Jun 13, 2012 09:56 AM
If so she's not being very smart as she'll probably know your married, also the Facebook request, quite a public link too.
Also what do you do for work, some women, especially younger women, like powerful guys (in work/public figure control sense not bodybuilding). Are you rich? Look for the simple answers.
My advice, ignore the FB request. Be polite, be nice but don't lead her on, also don't let her think you think she's leading you on.
I've known young women go after older guys and then just destroy the relationship of the guy. I don't know why and he's partly to blame as he's obviously trading the wife for the younger model. But I've known a few where a guy hooks up with a younger woman and before long it's a public event where the mistress is fighting with the wife and the guy ends up with nothing and no one.
Sorry dude, I think we all want a 22 yr old hottie clamoring after us but do you want to gamble your marriage & lifestyle on a fuck?
Posted Wed Jun 13, 2012 10:34 AM
Posted Wed Jun 13, 2012 12:03 PM
As Jade said, delete the request and ignore her. I know the attention is very flattering, but you're not single, so don't put yourself in a position that you may regret later on.
This post has been edited by Olive: Wed Jun 13, 2012 12:03 PM
Posted Wed Jun 13, 2012 12:10 PM
Posted Wed Jun 13, 2012 12:59 PM
I was merely just asking whether or not I'm reading this scenario correctly and not seeking advice on whether I pursue her or otherwise. I am actually in a position of power as a business owner and somewhat a well known public figure in the city I live in, but not enough I think to have chicks falling over my doorstep looking for an older guy to do the hustle with.
Posted Wed Jun 13, 2012 01:31 PM
And I don't really believe you have no interest or you would not have started this thread and have ignored her to begin with. In your first post you call it torture. How can it be torturing if you want nothing to do with her?
Posted Wed Jun 13, 2012 04:37 PM
Told you it'd be the simple answer!
I had a similar thing not long back, I was given a position within an organisation that carried a fair bit of power and authority. In the finance section thre was one young lady (20) who I occasionally dealt with after starting there, my arrival was low key and the way I operate also is without spin or show. So the first few weeks she didn't have any time for me, she was polite, courteous and responded to my requests. After a meeting with finance at which she was present and the announcement of my role was set out to be made public, she found out just what I did.
All of a sudden she is practically stalking me, to the point she actually propositioned me and promised me the best fuck & BJ I would ever get.
It took me a while to put this together at the time but I knew this young, pert, busty, leggy blonde wasn't after me for my chiseled good looks! (chiseled with a brick, looks)
During my teenage years I knew a hot girl, every guy was after her, she was smokin hot (still is). We became good friends and she told me she was only interested in older guys, because they are better in bed and have more money to spend on her. She had wrecked a marriage by the time she was 17!! (uk legal is 16)
This post has been edited by CaptainFantastic: Wed Jun 13, 2012 04:38 PM
Posted Wed Jun 13, 2012 04:59 PM
An older man, playing golf, probably fairly financially secure. A lot of girls would love the attention of a guy like you.
She may well find you attractive, who knows, but she is fire. It would be short lived.
Be flattered, smile and walk away.
Posted Wed Jun 13, 2012 10:59 PM
Haha, too funny. Played golf tonight and stopped for a quick plate of wings. That's exactly what I did.
Now to climb into bed with the wife and get a good night's sleep.
Thanks for all the feedback. It's great being an old guy! LOL
Posted Thu Jun 14, 2012 04:16 AM
She may also be impressed by you in some way or other and perhaps feel comfortable talking to you too and hence the friend request on facebook, not actually intending to get into many actual uses of it.
Lastly, there is a possibility that she may in fact be on to you and want to get her talons into you, but I think its clear that as a mature person, this is not going to be allowed to happen given your commitment already...right.
Since there shouldn't be anything come out of it, how I would interpret it is just an overly friendly server you know at a watering hole...nothing more. If it is too much to handle or there are fears of something growing out of all this, then simply remove yourself from temptation...its easy.
Just my opinions.