Help with a suggetsion!! Need a new vib for the wife
Posted Wed Aug 22, 2012 10:54 AM
First time post on here, but i hope to be around a bit (not just a once off q and A session!!!)
SO heres the background!!.
My wife and I are 27 (Perth, Australia) and we've been married 3 yrs now. Everythings great and we have a vibrator but in reality it was a spontaneous purchase a early in the marriage for a bit of a laugh. No research etc, just walk into a shop and go "hey theres one in the budget".
Best description is that its not really branded, it looks like a knockoff of one of the rabbit ones (so has the shaft + a bunny part for the clit) - sorry i dont know the terminology!
Anyway it has 2 buttons - speed up/down for clit part and speed up/down for the shaft.
The shaft is clear and you can see a bunch of "ballbearings" inside, which rotate around when on, the shaft doesnt just spin, it kind of angles off slightly as it spins,, I think im getting my point accross!!!
- My wife has used it a number of times (never alone as shes not into it - she says - even though ive explained its not like i would be against that!) however it really doesnt 'do it' for her any more. She is away for 3 months and im going to get a new one but something she likes and is more 'up market'
Ive read lots of F&E reviews on here which are great but in reality im out of my depth so i was hoping for a hand from pplz.
Below is the kind of thing i THINK im after and possibilty someone can point me in the right direction (sorry if its a bit broad and non-specific)
- She will need clit stimulation - not just 'internal"
- A lot of noise (like this other one) is quite offputting for her
- It DOESNT need to be waterproof (eg. not for a bath - just for bed)
- No anal stimulation - not into it
- ability to control stimulation (speeds?)
- No cables - and not a wireless, just a basic 'hand held?'
- Doesnt have to be 'compact' - its just for home use
Ok i think that is the broad idea... but after that im lost.
The Lelo range looks quite smooth and nice, and so do the 'Vanity by Jopen' range.. but thats just me viewing pics.
I even mentioned to her about a clit only stimulator but i think she feels thats too....'direct' rather than what ive said above which is more emulating sex..
Anyway I've babbled enough.
Thanks so much for reading and i love that theres a place to chat about this stuff without being made to feel like a perve or a complete idiot!!
Posted Wed Aug 22, 2012 01:47 PM
California Exotics Vibe is a real winner. Has over 100+ different speed and movement combinations. It fills me up and takes care of my clit nicely. And of course the Hitachi Magic Wand which has earned the Cadillac of vibrators title is so intense it can literally drive you insane. I was hesitant at first to buy it since it is corded and loud but... the reviews by other woman had me sold. Plus it never requires batteries. I purchased an inline dimmer switch and attached it to an extension cord so now I can adjust the intensity to my liking. I know you mentioned nothing loud or corded but... the Os it gives are just too amazing to pass up. Lets just say that once this is placed on her pussy nothing else will matter. lol Amazon is a good place to buy toys and I like to read the reviews. Very telling as to the pros and cons of each one. Good luck in finding just the right one for your lady.
Posted Wed Aug 22, 2012 02:24 PM
As far as the whole "too direct" thing goes, I have a few thoughts. There may be a few reasons she doesn't like to use the toy you currently have. On the top of my list - it may be too intense for her (or the way it was used), which can feel uncomfortable instead of pleasurable. If she's never used it, or any other vibrator, alone, then she probably hasn't found the right intensity that works for her.
An egg vibrator will allow her to change the strength of the vibrations, as well as the placement and movement, easily...both by herself and during sex. She should be in control of it. Have her start with the vibrator on the lowest setting and rub on her outer lips, not directly over her clit. If she still feels like it's too strong, she can can add a layer(s) of fabric until the sensation feels good. If she wants more stimulation, she can spread her lips and rub closer to her clit while avoiding direct contact. It's all in starting slow and experimentation, until she finds a method that works for her. If she finds herself wanting more, she can make the vibrations stronger. She may not ever need to directly touch her clit in order to achieve orgasm.
Edit: I do love my Lelo toy, and want to get more!
This post has been edited by PaleOrchid: Wed Aug 22, 2012 02:28 PM
Posted Thu Aug 23, 2012 03:36 PM
Posted Sun Aug 26, 2012 10:50 AM
It's a little loud, but she won't last more than 2 minutes. It has two speeds: fast and instant orgasm. Check it out on amazon. You will not be disappointed.
Posted Sat Sep 15, 2012 10:18 AM