Wife is asking for a hall pass?
Posted Sun Sep 30, 2012 01:47 PM
Posted Sun Sep 30, 2012 01:59 PM
Would you feel better being involved? Try swinging or hooking up for a threesome. Then she can have a "bad girl" experience, and you won't feel left out.
Do you not want to share her at all? Try something kinky and new with just the 2 of you. Plenty of ideas for kinky here on the forum- check out the fetish section.
Are you worried she will come home pregnant with someone else's kid or with some horrible disease? Set rules about what she can do before she leaves. Yes, this does limit her "bad girl" freedom, but she did agree to marry you and that comes with certain responsibilities.
Posted Sun Sep 30, 2012 02:14 PM
Posted Sun Sep 30, 2012 02:38 PM
think its best to set limits, expectations..and so on...talk before you agree and make sure u are okay with everything you agree to!
Posted Sun Sep 30, 2012 03:30 PM
it can be several days if you both wished it and probably the most critical thing with a hall pass is and i quote the us armys old policy....
"DONT ASK... DONT TELL" it helps you find yourself and helps you be greatfull to your relation ship but by knowing what the other realy did can only add strife
it realy could be a great thing in your relatioship but at the same moment it could be the straw that broke the cammels back.
Posted Sun Sep 30, 2012 03:35 PM
I am no expert by any means, but in my life I have never had a woman ask me to turn the other cheek while another man mounted her, unless she already had that man picked out and saddled up. Again, just my narrow and limited experience.
Posted Sun Sep 30, 2012 03:39 PM
Also, clicked on me that you asked ladies advice lol... Already had started so figured it wouldn't hurt. Good luck!
Posted Sun Sep 30, 2012 04:14 PM
You have already shared her with others, what is the problem now? Jealousy? Not being involved? If you set down clear boundaries, expectations and rules, I think things like this could benefit a lot of long-term couples.
Bottom line is, if you are just plain uncomfortable with the idea then you need to express that but it would probably help HER understand if you told her why; and maybe after explaining why, solutions and compromises could be brought up to help both parties get something that they need. You hold the cards to her happiness, in a way, and I think it's important to put yourself in her shoes. There are many things in life that we desire and need, and you are providing her with these things (hopefully) so it's important to understand why she wants to, how important it is to her AND your relationship.
Posted Sun Sep 30, 2012 05:24 PM
On the other end, it could be a disasterous experience, one or both of you have guilt/regret for going through with it. Maybe she develops an emotional attachment to the next guy. I don't know man. She could even have someone set up already. I mean, where would she even look in order to find a safe casual encounter?
By the sounds of it, you have a much different dynamic than what I would have with my S/O, so maybe you'd be cool with it. Kudos to you if you are.... But I'm not so sure you're down with her doing the hall pass thing or you wouldn't be asking about it here. All I gotta say is if it doesn't fly with you, then don't allow it. Period. If she gets mad and starts with the guilt shit, then I'd wonder why she wants it so bad.
Posted Sun Sep 30, 2012 05:57 PM
Posted Sun Sep 30, 2012 08:23 PM
I'd be going nuts ........
Posted Sun Sep 30, 2012 09:18 PM
Been there myself. Its the beginning of the end.
My GF had the guy picked out. disguised as a naughty night out.
Posted Tue Oct 02, 2012 06:14 AM
Posted Tue Oct 02, 2012 11:02 AM
Women can also become attached more so than men and lead to drama, but I've heard of couples that enjoy the swinger or hot wife lifestyle and are happy
Posted Tue Oct 02, 2012 01:44 PM
Look, as much as I don't want to judge, this sounds like a bad plan, and that without even considering how you feel about all this. Whether you get the same benefits it's irrelevant. I bet that she can go out and get banged on the first night, while you'd probably have to do it on ten tries before you can actually have sex with another woman. Not fair, but that's how things are.
I would suggest she looks for a "stranger" on the Internet, check if the fellow is clean, talk to him a few times, set boundaries, then meet him and do whatever. It'll be a stranger since she's never met him. And if you don't mind her doing this, you should be part of the process... You could do the same when it's your turn to have a hall pass.
Posted Tue Oct 02, 2012 05:54 PM
mostly these things end in disaster. deeply hidden jealousy and resentment issues are bound to surface during a future argument. make it mutual and equal or don't do it.
Posted Sun Oct 14, 2012 07:41 PM
now me personally, it would make me insane. i would wanna know what happened that night... not that we would ever even be entertaining the idea of a "hall pass" but if i were in your shoes i would say hell no. Now if you two together wanna go out with some friends and have a good time with that, i could see that being okay as long as everyone as on the same lines as everyone else and everyone was going to follow the "no pass" lines for everyone involved.
good luck friend
Posted Sun Oct 14, 2012 09:09 PM