Posted Sun Oct 07, 2012 04:46 AM
Posted Sun Oct 07, 2012 08:18 AM
Posted Sun Oct 07, 2012 08:21 AM
Posted Sun Oct 07, 2012 08:39 AM
since you don't give any specifics of your approach, I'll have to talk in general terms. Don't take it personally, then, if it doesn't apply to you and forgive me.
Mainly with young fellows like yourself, I've observed guys always trying to "hit" the same girls: the most beautiful, the most sexy, the most popular, etc. These girls are already taken, or weary, etc.
Did you try to talk to people like yourself, or only to the unreachable upper limit of the beauty/sex appeal scale? Because that could be an explanation. It's offer and demand.
You'll find that if you look carefully, there is beauty in everyone. Aren't you narrowing your horizons, perhaps?
Posted Sun Oct 07, 2012 03:03 PM
Posted Sun Oct 07, 2012 07:24 PM
Posted Mon Oct 08, 2012 04:14 PM
Harkin's advice is NOT unreasonable or illogical, but it will lead to what Bailey says in the quote above. Women don't think like we do. You need to stop giving women various prompts and stimuli that we'd respond favorably to, as well as stop giving prompts and stimuli that we think they would respond favorably to. Women interpret and evaluate things so much more differently than we realize. Getting to know a girl really well before asking her out on a date is the best way to put yourself FIRMLY in the FRIEND ZONE. There's almost no way out of that.
And if you make yourself too damn attainable by asking for a date in a beggar-like fashion, then you're going to appear as such : beggar, desperate, etc. And the only reason a guy would need to be like that is if he were undesireable in the first place.
For whatever reason, it appears women are attracted to that which is intriguing (mysterious) and that which is ambivalent towards them. (women will argue with me on the second one, but it's true)
So don't go blabbing about yourself telling her everything about you, even the great stuff. Be private about your life and your business. And don't act like the success of your weekend is predicated on her saying 'yes' to going out with you. You're going to have a butt-lovin'-tastic weekend without her...it's just a question of whether or not she wants in on the fun.
Posted Tue Oct 09, 2012 12:06 AM
This sounds like a non-response response, but honestly, stop trying. I don't mean give up on wanting to date girls, but stop trying so hard. Girls can sense desperation and you will get put in the friend zone in a hot second or you'll be ignored altogether. Just be more relaxed. Talk to girls and get to know them. Don't focus so much on how you can get them to date you. Just let things progress naturally. Things will work out eventually...and confidence is key. If you don't have confidence, you're never going to attract someone with confidence. Good luck!!
Posted Tue Oct 09, 2012 12:24 AM
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