post traumatic stress disorder, need input from veterens how controlable is the "rage"?
Posted Mon Oct 15, 2012 01:17 PM
I would assume because of this guys age, he prob served some time during dessert storm in the late 80s / early 90s, i could be wrong. I'm sure any life situation can cause someone drama and unforgettable "issues", but if the person KNOWS they have an issue, why instead of "fixing" it with medication / therapy / or whatever, to deal with it, why would this person do the "poor me, It's not my fault because I have PTSD". Why should the rest of us just accept the beating (verbal or emotional) as if it's normal?
Or is PTSD a label being used for the 9/11 war soldiers coming home instead of saying they saw so much, they just went crazy? So those who served 20 years ago were never offered any help?
This guy (ex marine) went from annoyed to full on rage within 2 minutes and took it out on me!!
Now, here's my story for those intrested:
I grew up with a father who was a police officer for 20 years. Sometimes out of nowhere, the smallest thing would set him into a rage (but verbally and threatening, not physically abusive), so I'm somewhat familiar about high intense jobs.
Everyone has their breaking point, but last week an aquaintnece, (using that loosly since we aren't friends, but are respectful and nice to each other in passing) seemed to arrive abit aggitated to start and already started to question how I was doing something, something I have been doing for 6 months or more without issue.
Then when it wasn't to his exact liking, he flipped, started talking very loudly, projecting, and almost yelling at me. I tried to walk away to finish my job, and told him "i'm not your child, you do not talk to me that way". I ended up apologizing 4 times for what i did that he didn't like, but his tone and demeanour was threatening to me so I kept trying to tell him "don't talk to me like that, i'm not one of your kids" and tried to walk away. I did not deserve the treatment he was giving me.
Then as I tried to walk away for the 2nd time, he was about 50 feet from me, and threw a bucket in rage, then was walking toward me yelling at me again, stopped at about 5 feet from me. Appartently he thought my walking away was saying "i can't be bothered" and things kept escalating. I finally threatened to call the police (forgetting i had my phone on me for once, thought it was in the car, we were outside).
I finally walked away, and made it in the building, the person inside said "what was all that" I said "do you believe that, WTF?!". Turned out he was behind me and yelled "what the hell are you talking to her for?" and continued yelling at me for another 45 minutes, every time I tried to talk and answer him I got "shut up" and "close your mouth", and if i was a prisoner or in the service. and it seemed like he was picking every topic he could think of since I told him "i was wrong, i apologized for it 4 times", then he said "i accept your apology, but what should I apologize to you for, NOTHING!. I threw the bucket, but I CHOSE not to hit you, I can't control when I blow my top!!".
The guy is about 50, ex marine, ex prison guard. About 100 pounds larger than me and stands over 1 foot taller than me. No way I can take him on at any level and whatever I said started another arguement in his eyes. Again, I know the temper because of my father, but never saw this guy explode before, but, I knew it was deep down and possible since a simple conversation with him is almost impossible on a good day, and facebook comments, forget it.
Even days later, and with another person trying to mediate inbetween, the mediator told me "he still sees no reason he has to apologize". That is the part that I can not get past. I am NOT the person that "damaged" his mind, and definitly should not have been treated that way, but how can he NOT see what he did was wrong? Why should I just accept it?
Please help me understand this disorder!!
Posted Mon Oct 15, 2012 01:23 PM
just a person I have to deal with when I run into him from time to time. We have a schedule posted so I know when he HAS to be there, but we all rent space in the building (agricultual building, not appartment or work), and run into others on an unexpected basis. Sometimes we can see each other twice a week, sometimes we won't run into each other for 2 months. But we have to get along, or get out.
This post has been edited by stillhavingfunat40: Mon Oct 15, 2012 01:24 PM
Posted Mon Oct 15, 2012 02:26 PM
Posted Mon Oct 15, 2012 03:24 PM
i have the utmost respect for the Marine Corps, and veterans. that being said, being a veteran does not make you a perfect person. people from all different walks of life join the military. and its possible for those that serve to be dicks too.
Posted Tue Oct 30, 2012 03:19 PM
Posted Tue Oct 30, 2012 10:05 PM
But that said, to me, the above you describe does not sound like ptsd to me. That sounds like something else going on.