Who has it better?
Posted Fri Mar 07, 2008 07:48 AM
Posted Fri Mar 07, 2008 09:09 AM
Let's start with the good:
Women have way more choices and control over there lives in all areas---no need to rehash here.
I am happy to see more and more men fighting for their rights as fathers; and working to change unfair marriage laws, etc., and also addressing violence (which in sheer numbers affects more males).
And then the bad:
Women are in a reproductive pickle for many reasons I won't bore folks with. But I have faith that it will get better.
I think some men feel emasculated by the feminist movement, which is understandable. But the flip side is, when I look at our history and around the world where societies are more traditional, I see females (and lower status males) still being treated very, very poorly and being denied basic human rights.
just my 2cents
Posted Fri Mar 07, 2008 09:13 AM
For the most part, not 100%, we are about equal.
Posted Fri Mar 07, 2008 09:54 AM
and it seems that what i've heard and seen is that it seems that the women could care less if they ever had sex. and would rather keep it friends, marriage, family, etc.. but sex? doesn't seem so.
i'm sure there are plenty of women out there who love sex and want to have sex, so this doesn't apply to the women i don't know, heard of, etc..
it's gotten to the point where i only see my wife as a friend, family, and someone i am married to and live with, and do love her, but nothing else.
i have permission to play, but i have never had a lover. no one i am interested in seems to be interested in me. (no offence, but the last option i had were two women at the same time. one had a hump in her back, walked like a man, and the other was a 45 year old alcoholic who looked 65, both were very nice people, but not my cup of tea.)
a woman around here, if she wants some dick, she can and will find it. i have a joke of the differences: a man and woman stand on a street corner, both fairly attractive. both hold a sign that says, i need to get laid. the woman gets picked up and fucked within a few cars passing. the man ends up going to jail.
Sorry to hear about your situation. Your comments remind me of conversations that I have a lot with my ex, who is now one of my best friends.
If you are in the mood for a read, check out "Sperm Wars" or "Red Queen". Red Queen I will read this summer--- it is more scientific; Sperm Wars is practically erotic literature with some science theory sprinkled here and there. They basically explain the "conundrum" of female sexuality...but be warned, it ain't all sugar and spice
Anyway, I hope things work out for you, one way or another.
Posted Fri Mar 07, 2008 09:54 PM
Posted Sat Mar 08, 2008 02:08 PM
no, i have never been a man. but if i could for a day, i would like to. i just notice that sex seems to have been better for all my partners rather than for myself. and i know what you are thinking, i don't have the "right" partner. but thats not the case. its just my body. my vagina. shes finicky and acts like an r-tard at times. i just think it would be awesome to have a penis. for some reason shoving a penis inside stuff seems more pleasureful to me than being the hole that the penis is being shoved into.
Posted Sat Mar 08, 2008 02:10 PM
People's solution is always -- your partner is doing something wrong, no how about my fucking vajayjay is a fucking bitch that gets sore after 2 seconds with LUBE.
Posted Sat Mar 08, 2008 03:51 PM
Posted Mon Apr 07, 2008 09:32 AM
Posted Mon Apr 07, 2008 05:47 PM
Women have more nerve endings in their genital areas then men, and they'll have a far closer relationship with their children [if they have any] than the father will. However, we need to recognize that in many areas of the world there are not as many opportunities for women as there are for men.
Posted Mon Apr 07, 2008 10:12 PM
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Posted Mon Mar 04, 2013 01:35 PM
Posted Tue Mar 05, 2013 03:46 AM
Although in most other respects, men have it better. Men are less likely to feel the pressure to get all mousy and cagey when face-to-face awkward situations arise or when discussing topics where we will feel like we wont fit societal standards if we're honest. Men give much less of a shit about looking bad in front of their peers than chicks do. (I'm not saying they don't care, and some issues like penis size and whatnot are REAL land mines....but the list of topics women get geeked out about is far longer for mens' list) So men have less things to worry looking bad in than women. I attribute much of it to women-on-women peer pressure, tho. Like the fashion industry...women think they have to look like chicks that are fuggin' painted masterpieces that are digitally enhanced. Men really don't feel near as much pressure to look like the guy in the Calvin Klein ad.
There's other shit, too...I know it's not politically or socially kosher to talk about this, but I don't give a shit. I, personally, (and I think most men are of like mind privately) am thrilled I don't bleed for an orifice for DAYS every single month and deal with all that pain-in-the-ass hygiene shit women have to contend with...be it yeast infections, mind-bending smells ranging from nominal to weird to worse-than-death...shaving legs and wanting to die over the thought of having dark facial hair...wearing make up and all the hair product and shit.
Honestly, I think it would REALLY suck to be a chick. I mean, for men it's soap and shampoo in the shower. Under arm deoderant and cologne (optional) afterwards. Shave about 1/8 of what women have to (face vs. legs, and also more optional or men)...and generally far less concerns about hair. (If we go bald, we can just shave the head...and it wont matter, or we can just be like Jason Statham) We are less prone to get emotional. (that's right, I fuggin' said it)
Outside of easy and diverse procurement of sex, where women have a MASSIVE (but really only largely perceived) advantage, it is WAY easier being a guy. That's why men really don't need advocacy groups. We know we got it good, mostly aren't mad about it, and thus need no political action groups.
This post has been edited by ilyushin: Tue Mar 05, 2013 03:50 AM
Posted Sun Mar 10, 2013 02:18 PM
But I say we are about equal. The advantages and disadvantages balance each other out.