Too big for anal?
Posted Wed Nov 14, 2012 12:11 PM
Posted Wed Nov 14, 2012 12:32 PM
Anal isn't for everyone. If she doesn't want to do it, don't try forcing the issue or she will be your ex-gf. If you are dead set about this, start with something smaller, like a fingertip or a small vibrator. If she doesn't like that - you are done. If she can at least tolerate it, you can try something a little bit larger. Work up to it.
Posted Wed Nov 14, 2012 12:37 PM
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Posted Wed Nov 14, 2012 06:13 PM
I'm not sure any amount of begging will get her to WANT to try it. If she ever does give her ass to you, it WILL hurt, confirm all her preconceptions about the act, and she'll probably never do it again.
I believe most people have discovered whether or not they're anally aroused by their teenage years (I know I did), and have determined whether they want to make anal sex a part of their sex life or not. This is not to say that some who experience anal sex later in life won't enjoy it, but I think that course is more rare.
If she ever does relent, you have to approach her very gradually. Use slim toys at first - a vibrator, a dildo, and eventually a buttplug - to see if she gets anything out of it. And I'm talking about a preparatory course of weeks, perhaps months. If you come roaring out of the gate at the first begrudging "okay," and shove your dick up her ass, you're likely to find yourself the recipient of a restraining order.
You also have to know how to perform for her, using foreplay, patience, and care, to lovingly and gently introduce her to your cock so that she will not experience pain the entire time you're banging away at her back door, but instead will feel filled with that warmth, fullness, and ecstasy that anal sex can give her.
Ultimately, she gets the final say, and I know you know that. If you're big, and the idea of your cock buried in her backside scares her, that may just be how it will be. But my boyfriend is big, and his cock still scares me sometimes (okay, I'm kidding, but just a little), but he's a magnificent lover, and it feels incredible, wonderful, delightful, having him inside me and making love to me!
Posted Sat Nov 17, 2012 09:23 AM
Posted Sat Nov 17, 2012 06:17 PM
If she is interested in exploring it, you need to be very, very, very patient and take things one step at a time.
Talk to her without putting any pressure on her. See if she enjoys a little anal play during sex, that could be a starting point. Do not ever try to put anything insider her without her express permission first
Posted Sun Nov 18, 2012 06:26 AM