Posted Wed Dec 19, 2012 09:55 PM
Anybody have any suggestions to liven things up? I suppose my only limits at this time are no threesomes ... he'd have to be a VERY good boy for that to happen!
Posted Wed Dec 19, 2012 10:34 PM
Try food play, take his favorite food and smear it all over your body blame hime and demand he clean you up with his tongue.
Go here http://www.sexinfo10.../sp_index.shtml , and try a couple new positions every time you have sex. That should last a bit...
Good luck - boredom is your own damn fault, but fortunately it's easy to solve with a bit of effort!
Posted Wed Dec 19, 2012 10:48 PM
Posted Wed Dec 19, 2012 10:56 PM
I'll give you some of our favorites:
Toys: we have a bunch, different toys that do different things. We use them together all the time. I love to use toys on her!
Bondage: tie and blindfold each other. Have fun and take your time exploring each others bodies. We started with simple silk ties and a blindfold, and now we play with rope.
Take pics! Photographing my wife is a huge turn on for me, and a huge turn on for her! That was one of the first things that we used to spice things up last time things got too normal.
Share fantasies. Even if you don't live them out, they can be exciting to talk through.
Look through pics, videos, sf together and look for new positions. A lot of the ones we try end up a no, but we have so much fun laughing and trying new things it doesn't matter.
Posted Thu Dec 20, 2012 06:47 AM
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Posted Thu Dec 20, 2012 07:23 AM
So ... assertiveness, new positions, add food, take pictures, play games, discuss fantasies ... looks like I've got plenty of homework to do this weekend ;)src="http://www.sexforums.com/public/style_emoticons/default/wink.gif">
Maybe I can get him to take some pics so I can show you what I've learned!
Posted Thu Dec 20, 2012 08:48 AM
Posted Thu Dec 20, 2012 04:09 PM
Long term BF and I were together way back in the days when we lived with our parents, and had to drive to deserted roads for a chance to get freaky. We have long since moved out and got our own place, but sometimes for old time sake we find a deserted road or spot, park the car, and steam the windows up. The change of pace makes for more interesting sex.
Posted Fri Dec 21, 2012 08:16 AM
The only issue is that I was tipsy while I was dancing on the tractor. When I try to dance / strip while stone cold sober it just looks awkward. If I know that I am perfectly capable of dancing and stripping in a sexy way, I should be able to do it without any liquid courage! Urgghh ... its frustrating but I guess I just need to get over being so self conscious and embrace my inner stripper. I know she's in there somewhere! :-P
And thanks again for all the tips. I think the main issue is that we get into this monotonous routine and before we know it, we're trapped in a rut. I've never been much of a girly-girl but I'm trying to experiment with wearing my hair differently and getting some sexy outfits. Where did you get that pink/red corset, kj10? :-)
Posted Fri Dec 21, 2012 05:29 PM
Posted Sun Jan 06, 2013 06:37 PM
He's content with what he has now, so he won't make a move for fear of upsetting you. If it's not what you want - take the initiative and CHANGE IT!
#2 - Check into Dominant/Submissive (BDSM) relationships -
Seems you're a bit of a newbie Dom already - '... he'd have to be a VERY good boy for that to happen!'.
Adding this new dimension to your relationship will certainly add the spice you seek.
Posted Sat Feb 23, 2013 02:54 PM
roll playing helps I think ask each other what kind of fantasies you each have and play them out.