Is sex addiction real?
Posted Sat Jan 05, 2013 01:17 PM
What do you think?
Posted Sat Jan 05, 2013 01:20 PM
Posted Sat Jan 05, 2013 03:12 PM
Posted Sat Jan 05, 2013 04:24 PM
Recently I got busted for flirting with a SF man via email. My husband is devastated, but isn't leaving me. Before this I had a feeling from God that I need to stop soon or I will lose everything. And by everything I mean a beautiful life, a beautiful house, 5 beautiful children. But - and this sums up my addiction - I told my best friend, I would rather keep doing this than risk losing it all. And frankly, I'd almost rather keep doing it than actually losing it all. If that's not addiction in the truest sense of the word, I don't know what is.
Posted Sat Jan 05, 2013 06:08 PM
I was once addicted to porn, and before any body cries BS and says its just an excuse let me explain. I started getting into watching more and more porn as I was going through a very lonely period of my life. It started just because it was hot and I'd watch it occasionally. Eventually it got to the point where when I started to get depressed my first reaction was "I should go look at porn". I literally became addicted to it so badly that I needed to watch it to feel better and I became even more depressed without it. It actually started to effect my personality until I cut myself off from it and I've struggled with that addiction for a long time. Recently I've finally gotten over it and I can just look at porn and be normal again. I still enjoy it and find it hot (only the good stuff though cuz there is so much crap to filter through) but I no longer need it in order to feel better.
So yeah the same thing can happen to people and sex, and the same thing can happen with anything else one might get addicted to.
This post has been edited by Sethor: Sat Jan 05, 2013 06:09 PM
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This post has been edited by Jade: Sat Jan 05, 2013 09:35 PM
Posted Sun Jan 06, 2013 02:30 AM
Thank you! And too be honest I still have to watch myself, especially on here lol. It's like being an alcoholic and actually getting past your addiction to the point where you can have a few again but you have to be extra careful when you do just in case you forget how to stop. I still have a little bit of the addiction in me for a few other things but thankfully its a lot better than it was and I can function pretty well again and I don't feel like I need it anymore
Posted Sun Jan 06, 2013 10:49 PM
I will say though that even if sex addiction is "real", I doubt that all of the people claiming sex addiction as the cause of their infidelity are being honest and not simply using the condition as an excuse.
Posted Sun Jan 06, 2013 10:54 PM
Posted Mon Jan 07, 2013 05:34 AM
that's not addiction. that's just normal behavior.
Posted Mon Jan 07, 2013 04:02 PM
When my wife and I were not getting along for a couple years, I found porn was consuming my personal time. I thought about sex whenever I was down (which was a lot). We somehow recconected intimately again. This time with toys and an anything goes attitude. Well, long story short, we have great sex now. We tend to only look at porn if we're together to find ideas. I don't crave sex as I used to - I enjoy sex as a healthy part of our marriage. This doesn't change the thoughts I have when I see an attractive woman, it just inspires me to do my wife!
Posted Tue Jan 08, 2013 06:49 AM
Posted Tue Jan 08, 2013 09:03 AM
I'm sorry it came to that.
Posted Tue Jan 08, 2013 11:34 AM
Posted Tue Jan 08, 2013 02:13 PM
Then it's not a sex addiction because you can control your urges. If it was a sex addiction, you'd be trying to get laid constantly regardless of whether or not you really wanted to.
Posted Tue Jan 08, 2013 06:28 PM
Yeah but if you look at it like a continuum, it could be on the edge, ya know?
Posted Tue Jan 08, 2013 09:13 PM
So when my Gf calls me nympho, i tell her : " if i was nympho, i probably would have tried to rape you a many times, i would have lost my job for sexual harassment a long time ago.
As for liking masturbation and porn, and thinking about it, it does seem to take a bigger place in my life since she leaves me on a dry spell; when i have real fulfilling sex with her, i'm less obsessed. Porn and wanking gives immediate gratification, but only real passionnate sex heals the body and the soul. How i long for that.