Wrong to feel confused? Something stopped
Posted Sun Jan 13, 2013 03:02 PM
I need to point out the fact that this is something that I never asked for, she just did it. I never even talked about it, when it was happening. I thought it was just something that she did. If I believe her, which I do, she told me I was the only guy she had done it for, she said that I was special. This made me feel fantastic, with her being my only everything. I had something to seperate myself from her past bf's, something special. She really seemed to enjoy herself. Then it stopped. Now it is hard for me to relax and enjoy when she is performing because I feel that she is not enjoying herself anymore.
I have been trying to figure what has happened, we have talked about it but with no results. I have expressed how it made me feel. What bothers me the most, is that it the same girl that was comfortable with herself doing it initally. How can I get her to understand me, as it makes me feel rejected, not special nor loved and somewhat depressed. I probably would not be asking for any advice on this but knowing how good it use to be and what it is now and being in the same relationship where it started, I am left totally confused and lost.
Posted Mon Jan 14, 2013 04:39 AM
(Que female members' doing whack job on me right......now)
But in any case....there's no way to tell what's going on in this chick's head. Maybe shes stopped because she feels that she's done it enough for you, and she can't do it anymore because she doesn't like it.
Maybe she's into another guy and you're old news, but she's not breaking up with you because of stability/comfort/familiarity reasons
Maybe she's witholding it because you're not doing something you used to do that she liked.
Who the fuck knows? Tell her how you feel about it, ask her what what the beef is (if any), and you need to proceed accordingly.
Posted Mon Jan 14, 2013 09:10 AM
Perhaps what you're experiencing now is the beginning of the end. If you read around, you'll see lots of men complaining they get no sex at all, or just a few times a year... and so it goes. Now it's just this one thing, which you admit was a taboo for her, so, she did it for your pleasure, at her own expense. You can only hope this is the only thing that will "fall", and that you, guys, continue to, at least, have sex.
I think 12 years is a long time to do something you don't like. Even though you say she took some pleasure of the control part of it, it seems it was really just to please you. Perhaps she just can't take it anymore. Perhaps you've done one little thing too many to piss her off and she decided enough was enough and to punish you by stopping punishing herself.
If it's any consolation (I know it isn't), know that there are some men who deny sex, too, or who don't do things their women would have them do.
One word of caution: if you push her too much to do it again, by being the depressed victim, by asking too much, etc, she may just stop sex altogether.
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