Posted Fri Jan 25, 2013 02:10 AM
I was on a cruise with my parents, and after I got back I decided that it was time to get into shape. I was tired of using my body as a scapegoat for me not being able to get a girlfriend. I havent actually had a girlfriend since high school. Im not really good at talking to them about anything because I am a geek, and most women arent interested in hearing about that sort of stuff anyway. This is me now...
And now I am wondering...am I still ugly? I still dont feel like I have really improved, despite the 65lbs lost. My goal is technically 100, which I am still working on, and will continue to work on. I wanted to get peoples opinions on this because if I am, then I obviously need to work harder. Feel free to say what you like, I wont get mad about it.
Posted Fri Jan 25, 2013 09:15 AM
Ugly? I think not. Somewhere out there there's a woman that will think you're the greatest thing in the world. That don't help a lot right now, but it's true.
Posted Fri Jan 25, 2013 09:31 AM
So far, through 2 visits a week to the gym, and a complete diet change he has lost 15kg, all that coffee has to stop, all the sweet things. do not substitute Sugar with sweeteners, they are just as bad. reduce your salt/sodium intake, and try to get down to 1.5ltrs of fluid a day, thats water, milk, juice, any gravy you may have with a meal.
Always eat breakfast, bran flakes that sort of thing, fry ups are a thing of the past.
Trust me when i say this, when we was told how much hubby has to lose, our jaws dropped, like, you cant be serious, but he was, we have done as instructed, and he is on his way.
No snacks, no sweets, no beer etc,its hard to take in, but you will get there!!
And you must exercise for 30 mins a day, every day.
when you start shedding the pounds, you will become a different person
Posted Fri Jan 25, 2013 06:59 PM
Keep doing what you're doing. And, no way are you ugly!
Keep at what you're doing, slowly and steadily losing the weight, allow yourself a modest treat now and then and get out there and socialise.
I'm sure with your cute face some gal will think you're the bee's knees! Good luck.
This post has been edited by PrincessOlivia: Fri Jan 25, 2013 07:01 PM
Posted Fri Jan 25, 2013 08:06 PM
The thing with weight loss is that it's not a race, it's a marathon. Trust me, you're WELL on your way. Keep doing what you're doing...and you're an excellent job.
You're post is correct regarding people's attitudes regarding being overweight, including those who are over weight themselves...and the best way to make progress is acknowledging that there is a problem, even when it's a problem no one wants to admit.
You're demonstrating mental discipline. That's the best kind. Keep it up.
Posted Sat Jan 26, 2013 12:39 AM
Posted Sat Jan 26, 2013 03:19 AM
You know how to lose weight, and you've achieved a lot. Congratulations to you!
And you're not ugly. You're still obese, but not ugly. The fact you're still working on your weight loss shouldn't stop you looking for company.
There's an enormous difference between the pictures. Amazing.
Posted Sat Jan 26, 2013 07:28 AM
If you drop another 50, you will be in the 180-200 range, which for your height shouldn't be bad, especially if you tone it up. I think you should look into doing P90X or Insanity. You don't have to leave your bedroom, but you need dietary discipline, which it seems you have. The hardest part is not losing the weight, but keeping it gone.
I'm 5-8 and go about 175. No one thinks I'm fat, although a tight shirt will reveal a small but protruding gut. I need to get rid of that. When I was in college I was about 140, but it was mostly muscle, so while I was skinny as fuck, I was still fairly ripped. Now I'm just average.
Once you lose another 50, you will feel awesome, and that alone will attract people to you, some of whom will be women. You're not a bad a looking guy at all, if you have a great personality, you can get some pretty hot women.
Posted Wed Jan 30, 2013 01:09 AM
As for the getting girls thing goes, honestly, dropping the pounds may open some doors for you, but the bigger issue may be your confidence. I'm sure this isn't exactly what you wanted to hear when you made your post but I think it's worth mentioning. Everyone here knows people of all shapes, sizes and interests who have found love and who haven't. There are plenty of women out there who like big guys and there are plenty of women who like geeks (and who are geeks). At least half of the people in the US are overweight and I don't think I've heard anything about an American population crisis. You need to understand that being big isn't unusual. It doesn't make you a freak nor does it mean you're destined to be alone. If you drop the weight, that's great, but appearance isn't everything, especially in relationships that last. People want to date someone who is fun to be around, is in good working order, and is ultimately a good partner. Getting in shape shows a potential partner that you care about your health, that you're hardworking, and that you can set goals and work to achieve them. These all help to advertise you as a good partner. Find other things that make you a good partner and learn to appreciate those things about yourself so that when you do meet someone you're interested in, you'll do so with confidence and a full understanding of what you bring to the table. It's the people who are most happy with themselves that are most successful at attracting others.
Hang in there man, you're on the right path.
Posted Wed Jan 30, 2013 10:49 AM
You are well on your way. And as for the girls - no worries there , it will happen eventually. Every pot has a lid. Just dont force it.
For the person who said that you should not go for the model types - lol. You will be surprised as to open they are , even lonely sometimes as the boys are scared of them.
So, go for it.
Keep us posted.
Posted Wed Feb 06, 2013 10:25 AM
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