ED is killing my 33-year marriage
Posted Tue Mar 05, 2013 04:53 PM
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Posted Tue Mar 05, 2013 10:29 PM
the following is assuming that we're not talking about hormonal changes in wifey, or medical conditions, etc...and assuming you can start pounding out boners again.....
Gio...this is an ancient paradox men have to come to grips with. The absolute most effective method for getting a woman to have sexual interest in you is (I know this is going to sound crazy) to lose sexual interest in her.
It's counter-intuitive, it's non-sensical, and it's the opposite of what our pop culture and society tell us. But it is true.
You need to learn to be self-validated, and not need her to want to have sex with you. That's step one. 95% of men will never complete this step...your direct honesty is a very good start....
But you must burn off the fog caused by the myth of pussy power....as long as she's the goddess from whom you crave sexual attention from, you will be unattractive to her.
Fucked up, but that's the way it is. Get over her...she'll get back under you.
Posted Wed Mar 06, 2013 08:22 AM
I know its not easy. Took me weeks to tell my wife I was on this site and that I liked it very much. After a long conversation with one of the ladies here and a night without sleep, I told her in the morning and told her why. She understands and now I can feel our marriages is better then it has been in years!
Posted Wed Mar 06, 2013 08:30 AM
I think you need counseling as a couple. That way you can both get your point across in a safe environment.
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Posted Sun Apr 21, 2013 12:23 PM
Two of my brothers and a few of my friends have had their prosrates removed and none of them has mentoned sexless marriage. They are making the Viagra folk rich but their love making equiptment is working. Also, you can do everything you noted without having sexual intercourse. You can pleasure your wife without an erection. If you have lost the desire to have sex then your problem is not the operation but mental. I suggest a chat with a marriage councilor.