have i pushed too far??
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Do not make a decision that you may regret I have in the past.
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Posted Mon Apr 01, 2013 07:17 PM
Wife and I talk more about desires during and after sex.. Best time to talk for us...
Posted Mon Apr 01, 2013 08:15 PM
And I've had it the opposite way. There's been things I thought I would never tell anyone, and my significant other made me feel so loved and showed me understanding and compassion and supported me in what I did share, that I ended up telling her all that and a bunch more along the way.
I believe in being open and having A LOT of communication but that's a really hard topic to share with anyone because his entire life he's probably heard people talk down about anyone who does the same type of stuff.
My suggestion would be to just reinforce that you love him, all of him, just like he is. It sounds like you're really lucky to have that kind of lover and partner to take care of you so well.
Over time he will open up to you and even more so now that he knows you know some things and you are still there loving him.
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Posted Tue Apr 30, 2013 12:04 AM
There's quite a few... very very dark... fantasies I have (mostly in the BDSM scene) that I haven't even told anyone - not even my girlfriend(s) - that I've even heard of, let alone fantasize about. Why? Because I don't want to scare them (and no, I don't have multiple girlfriends at one time; just at different time periods). I didn't want them to think that I was asking them to let me act them out with them.
Perhaps your husband was just... in the closet about it all. The word is "bi-curious," but remember, it's a little bit more socially acceptable for a woman to be attracted to women (as you are) than it is for a man to be attracted to other men. After all, he did say he was ashamed of his fantasies (as I pointed out, I can definitely relate).
Of course he shouldn't have kept such huge secrets from you, but then again, maybe he didn't tell you these things because he didn't want to loose you. Sexual confusion, such as is common with homosexuality, can often make you afraid of your own shadow, let alone other people's possible rejection of you.
I suggest being a bit more understanding with him. Next time you find out something about him he didn't tell you right away... don't even talk to him at all unless and until you calm down.
Posted Tue Jul 23, 2013 07:12 PM
If He truly loves you and you love him there is nothing you can't work out just keep communicating.
Posted Wed Aug 14, 2013 11:41 AM
First those fantasies about watching you with other men is normal. Most men want to experience that. The other you would be surprised the men that want there gf/wife to watch him giving another man oral.
It could just be a fantasy nothing else. Or it could be something he really wants to experience.
So as far as him not telling you he was scared you would freak out if you found out he has giving another man oral. About you and other men again scared you would freak out.
So you need to ask yourself does any of that turn you on you have to be brutally honest with yourself. If any of that turn you on that is fine if it does that is fine also. If it does turn you on it does not mean you are strange just means you like to experiment with sex. You need to set him down let him you know you are OK with his fantasies because that could be all they are. You have to be ready if he tells you that he would like to have those experiences.
You have to let him know how much you love him and no what the answer you will love him.