She's always found it difficult to open up and be honest, she says she's never really loved anyone until she met me, and I believe her to an extent. My issue is that she likes to have secrets. She doesn't see the need to tell me things and just won't. Now, if this was going off for nights away and being evasive I'm sure most on here would says that's suspicious behaviour, its not that. We've talked about this, and I've made the point that for her to have someone who is there for her and support her she has to be prepared to discuss things. We've been ok with this for a while and I thought we'd sorted it. But right in the middle of looking for houses and planning our next step together, we're out at dinner and she rattles of a list of headlines but I can't have the details. One of which is she needs an operation but won't tell me what it is, she just says its nothing major and I might not notice. I don't get it - whatever the operation she needs to tell me in my opinion, I can't work on blind faith.
I've told her I can't commit knowing she'll pick and chose what to tell me, and how much to tell me. She says I need to trust her and I don't need to know things.
As an aside, I've told her about medical issues including ones you'd class as very private and she's supported me. Its not like this is the first time.
The way I feel, we're not a "we" - I thought we were but her definition and mine are different. What's reasonable?
This post has been edited by Jon67x: Thu Jun 27, 2013 02:40 AM