I've wanted to learn how to squirt for years now. I've watched every video I can find, read everything about female ejaculation, sought help and input on Sex Forums, and I feel like there is no more anyone can tell me about it. I have a toy that is touted as the best G-spot toy on the market - it'll supposedly make you squirt, even if you've never squirted before, so I figured it was for me. I know where my G-spot is. I would swear that I do. I can touch it, it's actually closer to the entrance of my vagina than it is inside, and it feels exactly how it's supposed to feel - a hard-ish spot the size of a quarter that feels like the ridges on a walnut - and when I touch it with my fingers, I sometimes feel like I have to pee. But more often, it doesn't feel like I have to pee exactly. It feels like a gush of warmth like a wave that spreads out inside me. When I say that it's a "gush," I don't mean that there's any liquid. It's a gushing sensation - a spreading out is probably more accurate. It's pretty centralized - it spreads up inside me and sometimes around the tops of my thighs and maybe a short way up my spine. I'll be more accurate the next time I touch it and see how far the sensation goes when it spreads out, but from my recent memory, that's how it feels.
But I've never squirted - or even had a G-spot orgasm, for that matter. I have clitoral orgasms. Period. That's it. Can't cum without clit stimulation. Penetration alone doesn't work - even anal penetration - and Mr._C. could fuck me forever, but I'd never cum if my clit wasn't touched.
Now, tenyn and I have discussed this at some length, and while I was reading a recent post of his, I especially paid attention to the part about rewiring. I wouldn't be surprised if learning to squirt is at least partially about rewiring. I might need to train my body not to react the way it naturally wants to react when I have a clitoral orgasm - i.e. by clenching my vaginal muscles tighter and tighter until they release in explosive contractions. But if I touch my clit, that's what happens. And if I don't touch my clit, I don't have an orgasm at all. In fact, I'm not sure that squirting equates to an orgasm anyway.
I understand that rewiring takes a long time - years even. But I've also heard from women who can squirt that squirting isn't this amazing, blow-your-mind, never-be-the-same phenomenon. That it's different - yes - and pleasurable - yes - but not necessarily everything it's hyped up to be. However, I've also watched videos - instructional videos, not porn - in which the squirting woman can't even keep herself on the table (or whatever) and hasn't even the strength to sit up afterward. What am I to believe? Is it awesome or not? Because if it's not awesome, there's no reason to spend literally years learning how to do it.
Squirting sounds pretty awesome to me, and if tenyn's experience with MMOs is anything like having a G-spot orgasm, then sign me up. Seriously - is there a list? Sign me up.
And maybe it takes more dedicated time to practicing it. I don't sit down a few times a week for three hours at a time and practice touching my G-spot. I don't have time to do other stuff I enjoy now - like writing and blogging and reading and going to the movies with Mr._C. and having just regular penis-in-vagina sex - let alone dedicating, say, 15 hours a week to masturbation for the next two years.
So I'll wrap this up here with a few questions for ladies who squirt...
- How did you learn to squirt? Was it accidental? Did you practice? If so, how often? And did you use toys? If so, which toys?
- When in your life did you start squirting? Before or after childbirth?
- How do you squirt? With toys only? Manual stimulation? Are you able to squirt with a partner? Or does it only happen when you're masturbating?
- When you squirt, do you have an orgasm at the same time? Are squirting and having an orgasm the same thing? Or is an orgasm different and separate from squirting?
- When you squirt, do you physically have to will yourself to bear down so that your vaginal muscles don't clench? Or do you not have to think that hard about it?
- Would you describe squirting as an awesome sexual experience that every woman should have?
This post has been edited by Miss_C.: Thu Jun 27, 2013 07:07 PM