She isn't interested in sex anymore
Posted Sat Aug 03, 2013 04:08 AM
Here's a little backstory on my situation. I'm 24 and she's 31 and we've been together for almost 6 years. We've had a good sex life in the past and have had Sex between 1-5 times per week. But, within the last year or 2 she doesn't seem as into it as she used to. And lately Everytime I bring the topic of sex up she gets very angry and we usually end up fighting for several hours. After the fight is over we always apologize to one another and life goes on. But the situation never changes its like a broken record that keeps repeating and repeating. I have tried to change my approach and still nothing.
We work opposite shifts (she works day shift and I work over nights) but I always try to spend ample time with her and I always (no matter what) find time to do something for her everyday to make her feel special. I complement her daily and try my best to keep her happy. I do the housework when I'm awake (in the afternoon/evening) and every chance I can afford I take her out for date nights.
When we have Sex she almost always (99 percent of the time) orgasms and I put her needs first. I'm very open to any positions and I go down on her at every chance she'll let me.
(Sorry I know that's kinda rambling...)
But anyways I just don't know what to do anymore I feel like I've tried anything and everything. And It never gets better... So if there's anything that any of yous can add please let me know... I love this woman more than anything I just want our sex life to improve.
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Posted Sat Aug 03, 2013 09:31 AM
Posted Sat Aug 03, 2013 04:57 PM
Madness. Especially when you come to forums like this and women appear to be very liberal and keen.
I feel your pain.
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Posted Tue Aug 27, 2013 01:33 AM
It isn't your fault, not hers. You can try the romance thing, doing chores thing, etc... it won't change her sexual drive. You may get thank-you sex, but that will be a passing thing. If her sex drive is low, she can't keep giving you thank-you sex on a regular basis.
My guess is that she fights, because she's frustrated, too. She'd like to want it, but she doesn't. And you're a reminder of it.
I'm sorry so many men go through that. You love her and don't wanna lose her. You could try to talk to her about it, but not in a moment you wanna have sex. Open the communication channel. You need to know if it is anything you could fix. If she's just not interested, you'll have to get used to it. Or leave her, but that, you don't wanna do, and I totally sympathize. If my man wouldn't wanna have sex, I'd still wanna be with him.
It could also be she's just bored from the one partner she knows: you. I think women get bored sooner than man, but cultural stuff keep them in denial, therefore the end of sexual pursuits. Would you be willing to open your marriage? It isn't for everybody. Most people won't be happy with such arrangement.
Whatever, just know you aren't guilty of anything, probably. And know that for her, having sex without desire is just as frustrating as for you not having sex when you desire it.
Good luck in living with it.