I've been with my boyfriend almost a year now and things are going great; he's sweet to me, always telling me he loves me and how special and beautiful he thinks I am, and we do a lot of things together. I think there's literally only been a handful of days we've been apart. The sex was amazing, we were fucking virtually every day and everything was going great, I was loving it! Then about 3 weeks ago he had to go to some intense training days as part of a course he's was doing for a while and obviously on these nights when I saw him he was way too tired for sex which was fine. But that course ended after that and we've only really had sex twice since then (and was of those times he got me off and then just jumped off and told me to go home rather than finishing too). He even had a free house for a couple of days at one point during the last few weeks and when I tried it on I got swatted away. It's getting very frustrating as I'm used to more regular sex and he seems to have just shut me out for no apparent reason. The one timeI have attempted to talk to him about this he brushed off my comments and just said the sex felt so much better now we we arent doing it so often, and that with the stress he's had lately he just didn't feel like it, but honestly he's got nothing to stress about! I've been supportive and comforting to him these last couple of weeks, but I can help feeling like he's going off of me. He used to be very touchy-feely all the time - anytime he knew no one was looking he'd have his hands between my legs or be grinding on me, or if I bent down to pick something's up he'd be right behind me to hold me down and dry hump. This has all totally and completely stopped and honestly I miss it!! He used to do it so much I'd have to tell him to stop and he'd tell me he struggled to, he just had such strong urges to touch me or otherwise we close to me. Now whenever I go to see him the most we ever do is kiss and it feels like I'm just going to see a friend. I want our sex life to go back to what it was, or to at least find out the real reason he's gone off sex. I feel bad for how I feel about the situation, it's made me feel like some sort of sex maniac for wanting it more often than I'm getting it, and I fell like all the work I've put into trying to become more confident in th le bedroom is being undone - everytime I try it on now I either get swatted away or he gives in, does what he has to and gets off of me ASAP. I don't feel like I can ever come onto him anymore because I know I'm just going to be shot back.
Does anyone have any interesting insight as to what might be putting him off? Is it possible he does just feel too stressed for it and will go back to his old ways at some point, or is it more likely that he's gone off me?? Also before anyone jumps in with this comment - I'm certain he's not cheating! That's not even a slight concern I have.
ETA: just a few details I forgot to mention - for about a week before he went for the training course he did struggle to get it up a few times and/or had trouble finishing. I always told him it was fine (which of course it is - how would my complaining help? I just got over it, no big deal), and he didn't seem bothered by his performance really.
This post has been edited by CherryGood: Wed Sep 11, 2013 06:53 PM