For those of you that don't know me the preceeding quote is an extract from my profile. If you can read between the lines we've been through more heart ache and emotional trauma than I'd wish on anyone, we've lost touch sexually and need to reconnect. I know that I need to develop less of a no compromise outlook, but in return I need him to meet me half way.
We've had a history of communication issues which stem from me struggling to make myself heard, but we're managing to talk to each other much more frankly now. However, although I've a strong sense of what I feel is missing I'm having trouble vocalizing it in a way he might understand.
He appears to have certain hygiene hangups and worries too much about what other people think. The latter probably stems from his upbringing, but the former I'm still trying to fathom. Any hangups I have stem from his neglect of me and his not fully understanding, let alone embracing the new more sexual me. To compound things my needs would now appear to be greater than his and we've been struggling to find some kind of balance.
To complicate matters even further at Christmas Mr Rabbit could see I was sexually restless, admitted himself that he can get turned on by the idea of going with someone else and offered to grant me some freedom to roam. Hence I'm now in an age gap extramarital relationship with my agony uncle cum lover, with whom I've become extremely close. The practice has turned out to be far less easy to handle than the theory, especially since I've become very emotionally attached to my lover and Mr Rabbit has struggled with sharing me.
I've had to agree not to see my lover for a while in order to give Mr Rabbit some space and I'm trying to find a constructive way forward. Hence I'm asking here for the input of the good folks of SF in my quest to find a constructive way forward.
Thank-you in advance for your responses.