How could guys not be good at foreplay? Practically no experience at all and she had several orgasms.
Posted Wed Oct 09, 2013 02:55 PM
Posted Wed Oct 09, 2013 03:09 PM
I've met more guys that are rubbish at foreplay than ones that are good at it. I see it as my responsibility to show them how to make me have a sensual experience at their hands and an orgasm or two.
I'm wondering how you both orgasmed with no touching at all below the waist though and with your clothes on, did you have a dry hump/zipless fuck?
I'm also wondering what you need nails for?
I suppose the key to good foreplay is watching for body responses and seeing and feeling what is working for you both. Taking things gently and slowly, nice light responsive touches and no ramming fingers at body parts unless its implicated that its wanted.
Its good that you both had a good experience, if you keep to what you and she are doing, then you are obviously matched and when the clothes come off and you do manage to get below the waist, then it could be explosive
Posted Wed Oct 09, 2013 03:54 PM
If you really are "kinda' new to this" and you got that far on your first date either you are 'natural, your date was not 'confusing' at all, she was running the show having a blast, or any other of number of reasons. Whatever the reason, you guys seem to had really good time.
And yes guys, actually a lot of them, do get confused. And yes women, actually a lot of them, can be very confusing. So for a lot of people, both guys and gals, it can be and is quite confusing.
Not trying to be an arse here but how it is even possible for someone in their 20s to have no sexual contact of any kind for 2 years? ...
p.s Your time line is kinda confusing so I might be reading it wrong but still ...
Posted Wed Oct 09, 2013 04:00 PM
Also if u ask the girl what she likes, if what u are doing is right, u will score a lot of points n achieve a lot of things rather than being a person that Sir F says about ie that guys dont get it or being a rat's arse - and believe me he knows what he is saying when he talks about this subject hehe
Good luck with your explorations into all things sexual x
Posted Wed Oct 09, 2013 04:01 PM
that's the icing on the cake
am sure most will understand..for those who don't...
not sure how to help you
Posted Wed Oct 09, 2013 05:23 PM
Posted Wed Oct 09, 2013 09:59 PM
Oh, and no it won't be going anywhere further. It last all of about 3 days and that was as far as it went physically. Looking forward to 2018 lol.
This post has been edited by Buzzfly: Wed Oct 09, 2013 10:01 PM
Posted Thu Oct 10, 2013 09:10 AM
Yes, some women orgasm more easily than others. If she was cumming just from having her back stroked, then I'd say she can orgasm pretty easily. Lucky her! LOL I'm one of those annoying women who don't cum easily, so I get a lot of lovers who struggle to arouse me. Every woman is different. Never forget that.
Posted Thu Oct 10, 2013 12:32 PM
I'm totally lost now. You said that there were orgasms in your first post, then now you didn't have an orgasm but there is also nothing in your second post that would suggest to me that she had one either.
She was enjoying having her head and hair stroked, most people do. Neck kissing I can't stand but so many women love it, seems your girl loved it.
I'm not sure what you're asking when you ask are other women harder to figure out.
To me you haven't done anything more than a bit of petting, neither of you have gone below the waist yet or even been naked yet so there is a lot of learning to come.
Don't assume that because she liked the neck kissing and head stroking, that you'll have the same success when it comes to the next stage, you need to pay attention to her, ask what she likes etc, just don't take for granted that she'll enjoy whatever you do.
you both have a lot of learning and exploring to do together, its a bit premature to presume that you've mastered the art of pleasure giving based on what you've posted so far.
Communication is the key and exploring each other will help you both achieve the kind of pleasure you want to.
Posted Thu Oct 10, 2013 02:32 PM
Posted Thu Oct 10, 2013 02:37 PM
the problem i have is that a lot of women do not make much response. Kind of like they are having a secret orgasm or something. Not sure why, shy?
If i touch a spot and the woman says "wow, that feels soooo good" and starts to moan, i am going to get the message. If i am rubbing away, and after some time she says "alright, i came"....i have learned very little for use in the next session!
Posted Sat Oct 12, 2013 04:43 PM
Posted Sat Oct 12, 2013 05:13 PM
I wouldn't describe it as a game of hot and cold, there's far more to it than that.
Carry on doing what you are doing because you are obviously responding to her. Take your time and enjoy it, you've got a lot to learn.
Posted Sat Oct 12, 2013 06:56 PM
Education and communication is the key. You'll never do everything right but that's ok, you learn from both.
Keep up the good work, be careful of what you read on the Internet (consider the source that's writing it) and don't consider porn as "advice"