This post has been edited by Calculus_Lord: Wed Nov 27, 2013 03:30 AM
I like this girl but I'm also really busy
Posted Wed Nov 27, 2013 03:26 AM
Posted Wed Nov 27, 2013 03:39 AM
So my suggestion is just go for it otherwise you will regret it later. You dont have many opportunities to find the right person so she may be the one. She already knows what she could be getting herself into as you have already discussed this and really its her decision if she is prepared to do the hard yards not yours but noble that ya thinking about her. And if you 2 can work out and continue to be together after you both finish uni well in my opinion you 2 were made for each other and you are meant to be together.
So my ultimate suggestion is Just go for it and good luck.
Posted Wed Nov 27, 2013 06:14 AM
The part I find complicated is the distance. I like sex, so, I wouldn't do a long distance relationship. I only have relationships with men I can easily meet for sex. But that's only me, I'm not saying anyone should feel the same way.
Posted Wed Nov 27, 2013 04:35 PM
Right now, you're in education, and your friend is too, and it seems important to you. So maybe that's what's important to you right now, and it's what you should be concentrating on. So concentrate on it. If you find, as you go along, that you can't live without each other, then you'll know the time is right for change and you can act accordingly.
Posted Wed Nov 27, 2013 06:06 PM
There are some disciplines that are not (and never will be) a '9 to 5' discipline and starting off by being open about this aspect really puts you at a huge advantage; especially if she truly understands.
So, the short answer here is if you like her, like being with her, both understand the difficulties that are ahead and want to commit to each other, then go for it! My advice is to force yourself to be very open about what is going on with you so she really understands and does not mis-interpret your time allocation and exhaustion (which WILL happen) as a reflection on her. Obviously, open communication is good for a number of other reasons too, but this is a key that I know I botched my first time around. That being said, committing to someone and your studies will be a continual balance that will be difficult to maintain but if both of you are truly committed to each other there is no reason it cannot work.
By the way, PhD physicist here who has been through the struggle for which you are about to endure...
Posted Thu Nov 28, 2013 11:34 AM
Posted Sun Dec 01, 2013 04:58 AM
That way, you can both quit your jobs, focus on school, while you live off the money from pimpin' her out. You'll be together whenever your not in school or when she's in the middle of getting brained by some dude from C-list.
Posted Thu Dec 05, 2013 12:47 AM
This post has been edited by wingsofdesire: Thu Dec 05, 2013 12:49 AM