Is it normal to fantasize about your wife with other men?
Posted Thu Feb 13, 2014 01:28 AM
Posted Thu Feb 13, 2014 01:55 AM
But to respond to your Question , for me it wouldn't be .
Posted Thu Feb 13, 2014 05:07 AM
I dont think so but i am sure there are people who see it as a problem , i think we all drift in and out of sexual fantasies through our lifetime you are drifting into this one (obviously) no help needed you might feel completely different in 2 months time. how does the wife feel about it maybe she will be up for it too , then you might need psychiatric help .
Posted Thu Feb 13, 2014 05:58 AM
yea the first response hit the nail on the head... It all depends on your definition of normal.
I, being someone who couldn't see my ex partners with someone else without my blood boiling, think that its an amazing thing. If you can let go of jealousy as an emotion you're definitely on a higher plane of existence than many (myself included)
To be honest, no personality trait should be considered normal or abnormal. You are what you are!! The more you see certain traits as abnormal, the more unhappy you will be....
Posted Thu Feb 13, 2014 06:16 AM
Posted Thu Feb 13, 2014 08:10 AM
Posted Thu Feb 13, 2014 08:24 AM
But that experience was one that has defined me and taught me one of the most important lessons in life. I've let go of my jealous bone and have been in a few mid to longer term relationships plus now my marriage where I find it extremely erotic to fantasize about my ex-girlfriends then and now my wife taking me and another guy into the bedroom. Maybe it's the voyeur in me (and other guys with the same fantasies) who wants to see her being satisfied to the point of utter exhaustion and fulfillment, I don't really know.
Will it actually happen for me? Absolutely not, according to her. And I'm okay with that as long as she indulges in playing along with the fantasy (which she says she has a hard time doing).
Posted Thu Feb 13, 2014 08:35 AM
sorry to hear that rabbit. That IS the chief concern as far as men go...the spouse finds out the sex is GREAT somewhere else, and you do not get her back! I suspect EVERY man has that subconscious fear at some point in his life! So to allow it, the man has to be able to suppress those fears and thoughts.
I think the average male who would fantasize about letting his wife fool around outside the marriage might have one or two one of these desired outcomes in mind:
1) his wife will come back a much kinkier and hornier woman, willing to experiment with new sexual acts with the husband. It at least opens up the conversation to "hey if you did THAT, how about trying THIS now?"
2) If the man is lazy, it allows him to keep his wife sexually satisfied without a lot of "maintenance" on his part. Freeing im to video game, or watch porn, or sex chat, or whatever.
3) He just appreciates his wife's independence, and if she wants to experiment with another man or woman, he does not really have the right to demand she do not.
4) If she can shtoop the gardner, then that opens the door for him to shtoop the maid.
Posted Thu Feb 13, 2014 10:35 AM
Posted Thu Feb 13, 2014 10:35 AM
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Posted Thu Feb 13, 2014 11:27 AM
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Posted Thu Feb 13, 2014 11:31 AM
Posted Thu Feb 13, 2014 11:40 AM
Ooooh la la! Way you go girl. I know things were rough for a while. Just do not understand a spouse who refuses to step up the sex a notch where their partner is pleading with them! Maybe I never will understand it either.
Posted Thu Feb 13, 2014 11:47 AM
Posted Thu Feb 13, 2014 11:52 AM
I studied psychology and took classes on human sexuality and it is most definitely an interesting subject!
Posted Thu Feb 13, 2014 11:59 AM
You might just be getting bored, or your sexual tastes might be changing. People fluctuate all the time. As long as you're safe, and it's with someone you trust, I don't see the problem.
Posted Fri Feb 14, 2014 07:25 PM
I totally sympathize with you. I love watching my man fucking other women. And I fantasize about him fucking women and men, both active and passive. I think he looks 100% sexy when he's getting his cock sucked by other men. It's just too sexy. So fucking sexy, I'm soaked just thinking of it... wait, I'm soaked, because I still got his cum from earlier on when we fucked tonight... but you get my point.
Better than fantasizing about it is making these dreams come true. Some of them have already happened.
I'm a lucky and spoiled alien.
Psychiatric help??? Only if you mean fucking the shrink. A shrink fantasy? If he's delicious and hung... don't get me started. OMG, getting my pussy sucked and my ass fucked while on a straight jacket... why not?
Posted Tue Mar 04, 2014 11:49 PM
Posted Wed Mar 05, 2014 03:17 AM