Mature couples What do you do? When one of you can't or don't want sex?
Posted Thu Mar 13, 2014 07:37 AM
Posted Thu Mar 13, 2014 01:28 PM
Posted Thu Mar 13, 2014 01:30 PM
No kids, no interference, more experience. mind blowing...................I hope you will live long enough to figure out what a burden youth is..........
Posted Fri Mar 14, 2014 01:14 PM
Posted Sun Mar 16, 2014 01:10 PM
he other thing to worry about in a longer relationship is that sometimes one partner will deliberately change their style to want more sex early in the relationship to satisfy their partner. But over time they may revert to a more sedentary attitude which reflects their original personality. This can happen in other aspects of a relationship too. You just need to be aware and try to do the best you can. Physical issues can and will crop up over time. That makes all the good opportunities for sex even more special.
Posted Sun Mar 16, 2014 01:16 PM
Posted Sun Mar 16, 2014 01:28 PM
Posted Sun Mar 23, 2014 04:19 PM
I have heard of many couples taking this route. Females in particular.
Posted Mon Mar 24, 2014 10:46 PM
Posted Tue Mar 25, 2014 12:30 AM
As for taking the out-side-the-marriage route,.....meh....if it's about sex then you gotta do what you think you're more pertinent priorities are. Far be it from me to determine that for anyone else.
Posted Tue Mar 25, 2014 10:58 AM
well can't comes under the "for better or poorer" section of the marriage contract. So unless the partner is willing to give a hall pass...I guess porn is your friend.
"does not want sex..." sounds like a contract breaker though. I would first try to find out WHY???? Psychological troubles....you can get her some counseling, or drugs tthat do not decrease her libido. Hormonal issues...there are hormone supplements...get her hormone levels tested. She is not attracted to you because you do not communicate/take care of your body/dress good/know how to make her cum/ad infinitum....TALK to her and try to up the sex life...there are a ton of things you can do to try to re-ignite the sexual passion. There are some marriage websites with "Sex in Marriage" threads hundreds of pages deep.
but lazy, does not care, does not love you.....those are deal breakers.
Also, sexual inattentiveness might mean she is fucking the pool boy...and nothing left for you...so explore THAT possibility.
Only after all those avenues are explored...with no results...would I look for outside of the marriage methods. (And..it might take a good year of trying before she comes around...with numerous setbacks along the way just as you think she is getting her horniness back...so patience please).
After all that fails, I would try an "open marriage". I have chatted with a few guys who have that deal with their wives...and although not ideal...is a sort of demilitarized zone of sex that you might be able to live with.
Ultimately, a marriage should have sex in it..so if you are not getting any after a concerted effort...I guess the final option is divorce. Good luck mate.
Also consider...as one gets older...penis in vagina (PIV) sex might get harder for both of you. The transition to other types of sex is a perfectly valid approach to that. It not how often you have PIV sex in a week, but how many times you cum that counts!
This post has been edited by spud14: Tue Mar 25, 2014 11:03 AM