A question for all!!!!!
Posted Thu May 08, 2014 12:40 AM
Posted Thu May 08, 2014 12:55 AM
But IN MY opinion it's love that keep people together.
"For richer or poorer"
Posted Thu May 08, 2014 03:58 AM
EG: A female will prioritize her life differently, School, Uni, job, get a guy with a good job, ect.
Thee are steps they take to ensure they get the best out of the situation, ther not looking for love their looking for security,
hidden behind good sex and morals, the whole getting a guy who's got a good job is mainly a forced impression
they get from either a single friend or by the parents.
The reality then becomes what do you do when you realise that your not secure?
He's not an alpha male, he has nothing to show, we live in mad economical times, he is no longer worthy to breed with/be with
as my current life style can not accommodate these changes.
Guys are..... bruv, let's face it we're simple creatures!
We do what we need to, see what we need to, and take exactly what information is in front of us.
I need to make money, because I know I can achieve X,Y, and Z if I have more money
Or I've been on my ass for so long, I need to get it in, so I'll do what I need to do to achieve X,Y, Z.
the problem is this as men we know for a fact and with out doubt that if your in a bar
a high % of females will flock to the people who they THINK has the most money big watch, rings, expensive drinks ect.
But then we also know that when it comes to a Mans financial situation no one wants to part with half,
as simple guy we know when the love has gone out of a relationship just like the ladies do, but we will sit there and smile for years
while building an escape pod with a fuck this bitch mentality, when really we know the security that we're looking for has also been compromised.
So yeah again, selfishness man.
People are mental and influenced by some of the dumbest shit
Posted Thu May 08, 2014 08:03 AM
Posted Thu May 08, 2014 03:09 PM
That being said, If I am pulling in the big bucks and it is our arrangement that he maintain the home chores it would be fine.
This post has been edited by TheLibrarian: Thu May 08, 2014 03:11 PM
Posted Fri May 09, 2014 07:36 PM
Posted Fri May 09, 2014 11:25 PM
You forgot a classic: guy gets to a certain age and decides to exchange the wife for a newer model. That's the case with almost all the men of my family, including my father.
Why do they do that? I think with time, lots of people get bored of their partners. They'll stick around out of inertia. But if some extraordinary things happen, like a lot of money, health issues... then that might just help push them into movement.
People who can afford it, be it by money, or looks, get better models of whatever they're having. It's human nature. If love is involved, a lot of love, or strong social control, that may stop us from acting like the egotistical beings we really are.
But even when love is present, a person can really push you into boredom, into disgust, and the like. When we hear these stories, we only see the bad side of the one leaving. It's because we're all afraid it'll happen to us, that we could become the one left behind. We forget the one left behind may bare also some responsibility for making the one who left so eager to leave. We love to victimize.
Perhaps because I'm hyper individualistic, I don't see other reason than love to make one stick around in a situation where the other person involved is not fulfilling the "contrat" that a relationship means. I'd stay while there's love. If love is over, I'd get rid of the dis-loved partner and look for love elsewhere, because I kind of liked the experience of being really in love, as I'm now.
I think of divorce as a good thing: if someone is unhappy in a relationship, just go.
Personally, I wouldn't mind keeping my man financially. I have more than enough for two. But while that isn't an issue, I have very high standards pertaining to other aspects. A man wouldn't get my love in the first place if he didn't fit the desired profile. And it's got nothing to do with money. It's about things money can't buy. One thing in particular.
Posted Sat May 10, 2014 03:53 AM
That's one reason cultures that have arranged-marriages have lower divorce rates. Love literally ain't got shit to do with it. It's a contract.
Anywho....why money matters as it pertains to people leaving eachother? The same as anything else, I'd imagine.
Wifey packs on weight...hubby drops her for a cute lil' spinner.
Wifey feels like she's alone in the marriage, so she drops hubby and finds a man that'll pay attention to her. (Until he stops, at which point she'll dump him and marry with another guy who pays attention to her...until he stops...etc, etc.)
Hubby makes tons of money and wants to live like Charlie Sheen.
Wifey makes tons of money and wants to live like Charlie Sheen.
Who really knows, man? I mean...there's 7 billion people out there, all of whom have their own motivations for doing all the stupid shit they do. Trying to figures out a "why" is going to be like finding identical needles in a stack of 7 billion needles.
As 'Sweet Brown' so accurately stated...."Ain't nobody got time for that."
Posted Mon May 12, 2014 11:07 PM
Posted Fri May 16, 2014 05:07 PM
Regarding the woman leaving the guy who is broke: I think if the guy is incompetent, or a loser, which is why he lost all his money, then I can see her point. Also, if she had co-invested her money in their relationship and he lost it, then it is perfectly understandable.
Posted Wed May 21, 2014 05:01 AM
Fortunes aside, if you marry without considering your financials and your mans sense of responsibility you will be in for some interesting arguments, with your other half, who is more worried about call of duty then calling the energy company to pay the electric bill which allows him to answer the call of duty in the first place.
Posted Sun Jun 15, 2014 04:05 PM
ITS IN THE HUMAN NATURE TO THINK ABOUT OUR SURVIVAL IN EVERY CIRCUMSTANCES OF LIFE.....this survival instinct makes everybody think about the exact present and not about others......plus a luxury life is bad habit, and its EASIER to betray than to stick and show our belief in them....