Posted Thu Nov 06, 2008 09:30 AM
Long story short, my girlfriend and I of 4.5 years ( Both each others 1st serious and sexual relationship) were having a few problems. We live together with her mum, and I didnt think much of it, few arguments here and there but nothing i considered major.
Anyway, I had a falling out with a mate regarding my car and him stealing from me, after trying to recover my things for 2 weeks I gave up.
So.. 2 days later my Gf sits me down and confronts me and told me that she slept with this guy like a month ago when her and I were having a few problems. And She wanted to tell me before I found out from this C*NT!!!!
So she told me that twice while i was at work she went around to his place 2 days in a row to watch movies and ended up sleeping with him.
Obviously I went off the fucking rocker but as i live with her I dont really have anywhere to go even though i wanted space. She means the absolute world to me, i love spending time with her no matter what we are doing, from curling up on the couch watching movies on rainy days or partying hard until the wee hours of the morning. I can't explain how much she means to me.
She told me she was stupid and stuff and that she was really sorry and all that crap and seem depressed for a while, I cared but i didnt if you know what i mean. She even offered to spend her savings on counselling if i wanted it.
So all of this happend about 6 weeks ago and I'm still not over it, its still there. It does not help that every now and then the fuckhead who i thought was a friend sends me messages like "Are you sure you girl is at work today" or "Fuck your missus goes hard in the sack" What really bugs me is that i think she only told me cause she knew she was going to get caught out. I feel that we have lost something special because we were both each others first sexual partner.
Am I ever going to be able to trust what she tells me again?
Posted Thu Nov 06, 2008 10:48 AM
I'm with the crowd that says "Once a cheater, always a cheater." But it's only up to you what you do. Only you know if you will ever be able to trust her. Trust is fundamental to any relationship.
I wish you luck.
Posted Thu Nov 06, 2008 11:17 AM
Posted Thu Nov 06, 2008 11:31 AM
Sorry about your living situation, though...hopefully you can keep things amicable until you make other arrangements...
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Posted Fri Nov 07, 2008 03:17 AM
start looking for another place to stay but dont tell her.
she fucked you behind your back now you can just move all your things out when your ready and tell her, "does it feel bad that i'm being sneaky behind your back? maybe you should think about the consequences before you act"
i say move out and move on, but drop it like a bombshell on her.
hopefully the next lucky guy she dates won't have to put up with her infidelity. some people need to learn the hard lesson.
Posted Mon Nov 10, 2008 02:52 PM
Posted Mon Nov 10, 2008 04:02 PM
It's up to you if you stay or go.... ur options are:
Stay - and for the rest of your life wonder if she is going to sleep with another of your friends.
Go - be heartbroken, but meet someone else eventually.
Your friend seems like a winner!!!!!! with all his mature text messages, not only did he sleep with your girlfriend but he is not even ashamed of his actions...... with friends like him, you don't need any enemies.
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Posted Mon Dec 21, 2009 05:44 PM
in the end, i think it's all about acknowledging the love and the gratitude for this girl and eventually letting go. you got to ask yourself what you want in a relationship. i'm sure honesty and loyalty are some of them. don't settle, androxy. you deserve more.
Posted Tue Dec 29, 2009 06:13 PM