What's worst? A liar or cheater...
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I love how you put this, so I thought I would quote it and tell you that.
For me personally a liar is worse than a cheater. Let's start with the cheater side of the coin and I'll try and explain myself as best I can. With a cheater you know what you're getting. This usually includes the lying about cheating, however I feel that is tangential. A cheater isn't necessarily going to lie about everything, just where they happened to be on Saturday afternoon.
Of course either is a prime case for a deal breaker in a relationship. When you harm me in such a way there simply isn't any need to discuss it. A deal breaker is something to me which necessitates walking away without further discussion. Both of these options are cause for this.
So why does lying win out slightly? Well firstly it's only slightly worse than the other option. They're both absolutely terrible things to do. Lying however also includes things not covered in an under the pants sort of way. You can lie about money, food, recipes, who just called, what you like on a pizza, favorite clothes, and many many more. This acts as a negative shield around who you are. If we're in a relationship of some kind I'd rather not interact with your shield, I would rather interact with you. If you think so little of me that you feel the need to lie to me about just about anything I will be hurt.
In summary both are a deal breaker, there are just way more options available to liars to screw things up than cheaters. They can be perfectly monogamous with you, and telling the truth about that, but lying about everything else. Which is just as bad as bumping ugly with a guy you met on the bus or something.
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