Posted Wed Jun 25, 2014 10:42 AM
Posted Wed Jun 25, 2014 01:57 PM
If it is love, love will find a way.
I do understand what you are saying. You need to enter and build a relationship first and due to the short sightedness of some you are having difficulty finding a partner willing to take those first steps with you.
Best wishes to you my friend.
Posted Wed Jun 25, 2014 04:12 PM
Posted Thu Jun 26, 2014 10:50 AM
Posted Mon Jun 30, 2014 10:46 AM
I have dated a decent amount of girls since my accident. Instead of worry if a girl will like you, think about and know what you can offer to a woman, sexually, emotionally. Focus on that, be brave, be confident, girls pick up on that. It isn't easy, but I think if I can do it from a chair, you can do it too.
If this didn't help, or need any other advice, let me know.
Posted Tue Jul 01, 2014 05:24 PM
For the love of God, please do not say this (assuming spud14 is saying that you should act like a disabled veteran). Paralysis is highly unlikely to happen while "defusing a road-side bomb". Losing the limbs, however, is much more likely. Anyway, unless you are, in fact, a disabled veteran and your paralysis happened in service, please do not act the part. That's one hell of a punch in the gut to the REAL disabled veterans and is highly disrespectful. Anyone who fakes shit like that deserves every ounce of bad karma headed their way.
Suds00, be you and someone who appreciates you for you will come. I wish people weren't so shallow and society didn't push us to dislike things that are different and/or we don't understand. ): Best of luck to you.
Posted Tue Jul 01, 2014 06:23 PM
Posted Thu Jul 17, 2014 08:33 PM
To be candid, you also may be setting your sights too high. Unfortunately, for most people, there is sort of a appearance level matching that goes on. Highly dissimilar people often don't and can't hook up, which is a shame. Not one in 1000 would get my wife and I are a couple, yet it is the difference that adds greatly to how we are infatuated with each other.
Don't see yourself as handicapped. Nearly everyone is. Overweight. Not a pretty face. Too short. This or that wrong. Also, they try to hide it, which instead highlights it. Finally, it takes boldness and the ability to accept rejection.
A friend told me a story that I also know to be true. Of a particularly homely, hickish, beer belly, poch faced middle aged guy who dressed crummy, but nearly every week he was banging some different hot dish. He asked how he did it. His answer was simple. "I ask." Any woman he was interested in, he approached directly, introduced himself, and asked if she would spend the night with him. He said he might get 25 rejections, 50 rejections, 100 rejections - but rarely did it reach 100. He said he had no clue why. Maybe they were pissed of at their man, just hadn't had any, were in some self destructive mode. He didn't know. Didn't care. But he also said some then wanted a relationship, which he didn't.
The key to finding "love" and romance is to pursue it. Actively. All the time. Every place. Don't be shy. Don't gun yourself down. The most difficult "no" for most people to get past is the "no" the say for the other person without even asking him/her. They just assume a no or think the other person has to tell them asking is ok before they can do it.