has anyone dated a police officer?
Posted Tue Jul 01, 2014 03:35 PM
I know it's going to be stressful for him at times so advice on how I can help him through it & keep our relationship strong would help.
Posted Tue Jul 01, 2014 09:46 PM
Posted Wed Jul 02, 2014 10:54 AM
It's going to be stressful for him, you are right about that. It's also going to be stressful for you. The most important thing is that you don't take your stress out on each other. Find a close friend or family member who can support you through this. You need someone to go to when you need to vent so that you can be calm and supportive to him when he comes home.
Accept that he will experience things that you can never understand. Police officers often become jaded after years on the job. They start out idealistic and wanting to change the world, then they begin to feel like they have accomplished nothing because the world hasn't changed. Help him to focus on the positive things he has done and the changes he has made in someone's life so he doesn't get too discouraged.
Most of all, find your own inner strength. You will need to be tough to be a cops girl.
Good luck to you both
Posted Sat Jul 05, 2014 06:43 AM
I had a friend and her husband was a police officer. She worried yes... but she also knew that her husband was a strong man and a well trained officer. She worried, but she said she would be more worried if he worked in a convenience store.
She spoke of the brotherhood of officers and how they protected and looked out for each other and that along with the above gave her great peace of mind.
That call never came for her. Sadly she died at 34 from congestive heart failure brought on by a cardiomyopathy.
There is always a chance an officer will not come home, but there is also the chance that anything can happen to any of us.
I do not want to minimize your concern, nor mitigate the dangers of the job. My advice is to trust him and his training. Support him and his career decision. For some men and women law enforcement is their passion and he will need you to understand and love him for that.
Never let him leave the house without telling him you love him. I recommend this to ALL couples.
You and your fiancé have my best wishes. Bless him for entering a noble profession and bless you for loving him.
Posted Sat Jul 05, 2014 09:30 AM
You would have more statistical cause to worry if he worked construction, agriculture, sanitation, or was a truck driver.
Posted Sat Jul 05, 2014 11:51 PM
Posted Thu Jul 17, 2014 12:34 AM
Many come to talk cop talk 24/7. They can become cynical and since psychologically dominating people is part of their job and training, they tend to do it eventually to there mates/spouses. Cops can always find affairs quick too. Easily.
Not saying don't do it and no two people are the same, but those are the tendencies and for understandable reasons.
This post has been edited by tommy50: Thu Jul 17, 2014 12:36 AM
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Posted Mon Sep 21, 2015 12:24 PM
In my case being with a 'Doctor' .. she had bad days Nothing I can do, nothing she can do. 'all I can do is listen'
Does get you emotionally though
Posted Sun Sep 27, 2015 10:14 AM
Posted Sun Oct 11, 2015 08:15 AM